Femdom: I dare say I'm over it...

Reborn16

Fapstronaut
I never thought I'd get over this. I honestly just wanted to give up PMO and have a girlfriend that was OK with being dominant. Hopefully this gives some hope for anyone going through similar things.

I've tried to stay on track the last few years. Averaging about 1 month no PMO at a time, and the last time I saw an escort was a few years ago.

Fast forward to this week, and I had those urges to PMO. Rather than give in to pixels on a screen, I decided to try the real thing to just 'get it out of my system'.

It just wasn't the same.

There was nearly zero connection, the things she said (insults etc.) I just couldn't identify with.

I went to a café and bookstore right after, and the brief interactions I had with the girls working there was so much more fulfilling.

I don't want to be dominated, and I don't want to dominate anyone either. It's all about mutual respect, connection, and attraction.

To anyone who identifies as a 'loser' or anything like that, don't give up. Change happens slowly, and it's hard to predict exactly what your values will be like in the future. All the best!
 
I never thought I'd get over this. I honestly just wanted to give up PMO and have a girlfriend that was OK with being dominant. Hopefully this gives some hope for anyone going through similar things.

I've tried to stay on track the last few years. Averaging about 1 month no PMO at a time, and the last time I saw an escort was a few years ago.

Fast forward to this week, and I had those urges to PMO. Rather than give in to pixels on a screen, I decided to try the real thing to just 'get it out of my system'.

It just wasn't the same.

There was nearly zero connection, the things she said (insults etc.) I just couldn't identify with.

I went to a café and bookstore right after, and the brief interactions I had with the girls working there was so much more fulfilling.

I don't want to be dominated, and I don't want to dominate anyone either. It's all about mutual respect, connection, and attraction.

To anyone who identifies as a 'loser' or anything like that, don't give up. Change happens slowly, and it's hard to predict exactly what your values will be like in the future. All the best!

This is something I really needed to read right now - thanks for posting!
 
Thank you for posting this. I have struggled with this fetish for a few years now and things were starting to get out of control before I got back on nofap...

I knew it wasn't for me, but I couldn't stay away from it because of the absolutely insane dopamine rush that it came with...

I never identified as a "loser" or anything in real life.. this wasn't a fetish that I was into earlier in my life either...

Just goes to show you that P is a dangerous/bottomless pit.. Once one novelty gets a bit boring, there are 10 000 more to get addicted to.
 
Thank you for posting this. I have struggled with this fetish for a few years now and things were starting to get out of control before I got back on nofap...

I knew it wasn't for me, but I couldn't stay away from it because of the absolutely insane dopamine rush that it came with...

I never identified as a "loser" or anything in real life.. this wasn't a fetish that I was into earlier in my life either...

Just goes to show you that P is a dangerous/bottomless pit.. Once one novelty gets a bit boring, there are 10 000 more to get addicted to.

Absolutely, the different novelties are unrealistic and ultimately never give us what we want.

It's funny after a certain amount of time, the most normal interactions with people can be sufficient if there's a good vibe there. Cheers!
 
this femdom stuff was the end of the road for me. It gives u such a kick its crazy. Im happy you got rid of it and thanks for ur wise words!
 
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