Femdom: I dare say I'm over it...

I never thought I'd get over this. I honestly just wanted to give up PMO and have a girlfriend that was OK with being dominant. Hopefully this gives some hope for anyone going through similar things.

I've tried to stay on track the last few years. Averaging about 1 month no PMO at a time, and the last time I saw an escort was a few years ago.

Fast forward to this week, and I had those urges to PMO. Rather than give in to pixels on a screen, I decided to try the real thing to just 'get it out of my system'.

It just wasn't the same.

There was nearly zero connection, the things she said (insults etc.) I just couldn't identify with.

I went to a café and bookstore right after, and the brief interactions I had with the girls working there was so much more fulfilling.

I don't want to be dominated, and I don't want to dominate anyone either. It's all about mutual respect, connection, and attraction.

To anyone who identifies as a 'loser' or anything like that, don't give up. Change happens slowly, and it's hard to predict exactly what your values will be like in the future. All the best!

 

Absolutely, the different novelties are unrealistic and ultimately never give us what we want.

It's funny after a certain amount of time, the most normal interactions with people can be sufficient if there's a good vibe there. Cheers!