Femdom Problem

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by atakankurudere, Nov 22, 2019.

  1. atakankurudere

    atakankurudere Fapstronaut

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    I Started watching femdom porn at i was 13 and now im 17 i didnt watch vanilla porn ever. I have a question. Why am i attracted to femdom porn? do i have a sexual masochistic disorder? if yes. how can i get rid of it? will doing nofap stop me to get off on femdom porn? How can i turn to a healthy sexual life.
     
  2. GaryMayor

    GaryMayor Fapstronaut

    Sexuality is a complex thing and we can't be sure what affected your preferences. Do you have any idea what past experiences could be worth considering there?
     
  3. atakankurudere

    atakankurudere Fapstronaut

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    My parents are divorced since i am a baby. And my mother raised me up. At the age of 10 to 14 my father showed me violence.
     
  4. atakankurudere

    atakankurudere Fapstronaut

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    Do you think i have a sexual masochistic disorder. I am asking this because i started i enjoyed femdom as i started to go in puberty?
     
  5. MuddyShadows

    MuddyShadows Fapstronaut

    I personally believe that the femdom problem come from low self steem. Leaving the sexism aside, people want it or not, the man is expected to me dominant in a intercourse in the majority of cases. Then, what happens is that nowadays a lot of men think that they can't perform well in that role due to a lot of reasons: low self steem, overweight, small penis (this is often not the reality, but we end up thinking about that because of porn),
    premature ejaculation, etc... This lead to the rise of the dominant female.

    I don't think that females being dominant is a bad thing, in fact, some sexual positions create that exact situation, and it's all good, but when it leads to masochism it turns into something bad.

    NoFap might help you with that, if it's related to porn consumption, but I still think that there's more than just the porn addiction into that situation.
     
    Last edited: Nov 22, 2019
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  6. blunt.ever

    blunt.ever Fapstronaut

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    Say honestly, do you like the smell of women's feet?
     
  7. fedmom

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    There's a thread in my profile for getting rid of femdom fetish.
     
  8. Kligor

    Kligor Fapstronaut

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    I have femdom addiction too,since i was little child.From my experience,after year+ of nofap i m still addicted to femdom,very less but it is still here,and weird thing to me is that i never turn on vanila things.
     
  9. atakankurudere

    atakankurudere Fapstronaut

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    What do you think is the reason for it?
     
  10. Kligor

    Kligor Fapstronaut

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    I like feet since i was little child,when i was 5-6 years old i was having weird dream.I dream that big feet step on me and i explode xD,it sounds funny but i really dream it.How times goes i go to far with porn,i may really explode like in dream xD.
     
  11. miXhal

    miXhal Fapstronaut

    When using porn, you get attracted to all sorts of weirdest things over time. If it emerged after some time of its usage, it´s more than likely porn-induced. And thus, if this is the case, stopping porn for good would certainly help.
     
  12. femdomsucks17

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    i can relate your story with mine..it is even worse..even i didn't have agood childhood..my dad was working abroad and mom raised me and brother was brought up in hostel since childhood..so it was just me and my mom and also my mom has psychological issues and so there was no one to guide me and ever since i was little i had feetfetish i used to stare at my teachers feet and i used to drop my things near her feet and i used to touch it and also fantasize about worshipping it and then i started imagining with my class girls feet but then porn happened and i discovered femdom category and it made things worse i started watching facesitting, humiliation and even weird categories which i dont wanna mention and last 8 months i was able to stay clean for 210 days and my femdom fetish has been fading slowly...i still have it but some porn induced fetishes are fading away slowly but feetfetish wont fade away since it was in my mind even before porn and im okay with it and now for the first tme i started getting attracted to boobs which i was never attracted to and i'm happy about it but still i'm not attracted to vanilla but hopefully one i will get attract to it and like my fedmom said the voice thing helps at times like telling your subconsious mind that femdom is not worth it over and over again also has been helping me..
     
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  13. Kligor

    Kligor Fapstronaut

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    I m sorry for your bad childhood,mine was not nice too,i m glad to hear that you can be attracted to boobs now,i hope i will to soon.How long are you Fapstronaut?
     
  14. fedmom

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  15. femdomsucks17

    femdomsucks17 Fapstronaut

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    i have been taking this seriously last 8 months and have stayed clean for 210 days in last 8 months...but yesterday a past haunted me and i almost visited a mistress to take session...i visited a place faraway from my place for some work but it is also a place where a lots of mistresses reside and i had a rough day there and with too much stress i thought getting it over by visiting a mistress and i even contacted one by looking into twitter and i even paid advance amount and she even scheduled a session for that night and she asked me about those fetishes and i told her about it and i was excited that i was going to take a session and also i was feeling bad that how weird i would feel after that session and it was battle between my brains and that woman kept on texting me to come for the session and she even called me and after listening to her voice my temptation was upto the ceiling level but my flight timing back to my homeplace was 6 hours to go but somehow i managed to not visit her and my gf called me and listening to her voice reduced my temptation but i fapped to femdom porn the next day after visiting my homeplace due to high anxiety and after that i'm feelin low in confidence...but i'm happy i didn't visit that woman's place and took session..then i would have regretted for the rest of my life....what i've learnt is this thought won't disapper but it will reduce if you stay on hardmode and you can develop normal sex slowly in that time...i still have femdom but now i'm also getting attracted to breasts and i feel happy about it...but november didn't go well as i had many relapses but i will bounce back stronger..
     
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  16. Kligor

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    Good decision man,you are on good way.
     
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