Fetishes

For me, since I've cut back so much on Porn and Fapping, I have been fascinated with living the fetishes that I fantasized about in real life. I'm realizing that there is just no satisfaction available. I used to fantasize about wearing spandex leggings and tight shirts. Now I'm wearing them to the Gym a few times a week and my wife even digs them. It has worked out well since it has motivated me to get into the best shape of my life, but I always want something more. Instead of wearing regular tights, I'm wanting to wear shinier tights or ones with more conspicuous bulges or ones that ride up by butt. I always wanted to wear speedos, but now that I'm wearing them to swim, I'm wanting to wear thongs or suits that go see thru when wet. It seems that I always want more until I get to something I just can't do.
I'm seeing this with piercing fetishes too. First you want earrings, then multiple earrings, then noserings, then all the other stuff. There is never a place where you can just stop and be satisfied. It all just escalates. Does one just have to hang it up?

 

Thanks for the responses. I haven't masturbated for 2 weeks and the energy is building up. I have gotten totslly caught up in the fantasies in my head. Mostly I don't talk about this stuff. I've had conversations with other fetishists and we act like it's normal and play off eachothers energy. It is not normal. We are all turned on by things that are not good for us. Maybe I can wear running tights or speedos in the right environment, but anything beyond that makes me a freak. I don't want to be the old guy alone in a thong on the beach or the old guy with silly looking piercings(thankfully I never pierced more than my ear).
I want to get connect my wife. I want to stop doing sexuality alone and do it together with her. Hopefully as I go longer without masturbating, my crazy fantasies will fade away.

 

It is so obvious how ridiculous this is. All I need to do is properly f*** my wife.

 

have you read the yourbrainonporn posts about fetishes? Some people find them fading after reboots IF they stop fantasizing.
I have found a self hypnosis mp3 (recommended by someone here) helps a little. And actually engaging in an activity where its expected/required to wear such materials and only doing that has diminished the sexual association.

 

yeah there is definitely age-appropriate but for example a serious swimmer will wear jammers at any age. As long as you embrace non sexually and there is nothing wrong with feeling good about what you're wearing and having it feel good (there is such thing as non-sexual sensual enjoyment, according to the book I am reading called "Unwanted" (about unwanted sexual behavior).
I have struggled with this with workout/excercise clothing as well. Does 'all' clothing do it or is there a brand or type of material you don't sexualize that does the same thing?

 

here's a great starting point @ Your Brain on Porn:
https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/rebooting-porn-use-faqs/is-my-fetish-porn-induced/

 

Thanks for the input. Things already seem more normal now. I saw the Gary Wilson stuff several years ago, but maybe I'll check it out again. The clothing isn't the problem. It is my obsession. I can wear tights to the gym on leg day and it is all normal. The problem happens when I believe that there is some experience I could have while wearing certain things that would give me satisfaction. It is all a fantasy.

 

Yes. You nailed it.