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Rick Seng

Rick Seng

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Hello everyone. Well I had been struggling with porn addiction for the last 7-8 years and had developed ED. Am 31 at the moment.
Gradually as my porn had escalated, I was drawn more into femdom porn, and cuckold became an addiction. I chatted on these websites all the time and built a lot of connections, these sites were more addictive to me than real porn, but well i was always a submissive.
I started NoFap early this year (no self masturbation or porn), and did a 120 days streak. I have a gf so gradually I was able to have good sex with her (ED gradually reduced) but like many others I relapsed a couple of times after these 120 days.
At the moment I am again on a 60 day streak.
Well I no longer feel submissive or interested in the femdom stuff, rather I feel exactly the opposite. The ED has subsided a lot. The problem is most of the time i need to play that as a bull with a cuckold couple to get an erection, and it becomes very tedious, Sometimes I lose erections if i couldn't think of something new. Even when am in the middle of a sex act with my gf I need to think of something like this to get a stronger erection, which hampers my satisfaction. And the most important part is that i want to go to those chat sites and chat with those women, I literally have a huge problem of controlling that.
Any suggestions will be welcome on how I can deal with this problem.
 
Rick Seng said:
Hello everyone. Well I had been struggling with porn addiction for the last 7-8 years and had developed ED. Am 31 at the moment.
Gradually as my porn had escalated, I was drawn more into femdom porn, and cuckold became an addiction. I chatted on these websites all the time and built a lot of connections, these sites were more addictive to me than real porn, but well i was always a submissive.
I started NoFap early this year (no self masturbation or porn), and did a 120 days streak. I have a gf so gradually I was able to have good sex with her (ED gradually reduced) but like many others I relapsed a couple of times after these 120 days.
At the moment I am again on a 60 day streak.
Well I no longer feel submissive or interested in the femdom stuff, rather I feel exactly the opposite. The ED has subsided a lot. The problem is most of the time i need to play that as a bull with a cuckold couple to get an erection, and it becomes very tedious, Sometimes I lose erections if i couldn't think of something new. Even when am in the middle of a sex act with my gf I need to think of something like this to get a stronger erection, which hampers my satisfaction. And the most important part is that i want to go to those chat sites and chat with those women, I literally have a huge problem of controlling that.
Any suggestions will be welcome on how I can deal with this problem.
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Your problem is because your counting it as a number those that have over come don't do that they see it as a life style. So the counting account for decipline because you will reach a point you won't count again. And you not masturbating will be a life style however your relaps servers as experience for you to achieve this if your really serious you will achieve this hieght goodluck.
 
I might be completely wrong on this but you come across to me as someone with natural dominant tendencies that got deep into porn and ended up sublimating those real life unfulfilled tendencies into the opposite, and currently societally more currently accepted tendencies.

Relapses will happen, I think you should picture it as in better 1 in 120 than 120 of 120, perfection doesn't truly exist, but nonetheless, practice "makes perfect" so just keep at it.

Last but not least, those "connections" were never, and are not real, burn that in your head.

May god bless you.
 
The Conqueror 414 said:
Your problem is because your counting it as a number those that have over come don't do that they see it as a life style. So the counting account for decipline because you will reach a point you won't count again. And you not masturbating will be a life style however your relaps servers as experience for you to achieve this if your really serious you will achieve this hieght goodluck.
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Well usually I don't count, I usually find myself looking at the calendar when my urges get out of control. but yeah I have a great urge to masturbate and I probably prefer it over sex. And yeah those chats are kinda in my mind all day and that urges me masturbate. If nothing I just want to go and chat.
 
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MrPriest said:
I might be completely wrong on this but you come across to me as someone with natural dominant tendencies that got deep into porn and ended up sublimating those real life unfulfilled tendencies into the opposite, and currently societally more currently accepted tendencies.

Relapses will happen, I think you should picture it as in better 1 in 120 than 120 of 120, perfection doesn't truly exist, but nonetheless, practice "makes perfect" so just keep at it.

Last but not least, those "connections" were never, and are not real, burn that in your head.

May god bless you.
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U are right, am indeed very dominant in real life as that was one of the reasons my gf say she was attracted to me.
The thing is that I can't get these dom thoughts out of my mind at all and I feel that am living a fantasy life in my mind.
The other problem is when I was into the submissive side I was shy and insecure and ashamed. I don't feel these now and my mind says that's good so you can go back to those chat sites and chat with the new identity as a dominant person. I somehow restrict myself from going back there
 
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