Fighting Loneliness

I totally agree,
Instead of just staying on your own thinking, its a great idea to get out and meet other people.
And things like the meetup website make it easier to do that now.

 

I hear what you're saying. However, sometimes your mind and body just doesn't want to do anything productive, or you have things going on in your life that prevent you from going outside, and just enjoying your time with friends and family. Or maybe just going to events, doing things out of interests, and just getting out of the house in general. In my case, my best friend lives far away and I don't see him as much; when we were younger, we used to hang out a lot, but not anymore. Maybe once or twice a month at most.

On the other hand, my other best friend and I are were in a huge argument (relating to girls unfortunately) and we haven't talked in 6 weeks! I'm trying my best to say sorry and fix my mistakes, but he just doesn't want to talk to me. As of now, he has his girlfriend to support him and no one else, while I have my family. However, I do miss him and I would like to see him again, but that isn't going to happen for a while.

In the mean time, I've just been hanging out with my family, and it's getting to the point where I'm feeling lonely. I'm PMOing way more that I used to and it's strange. My new job is sometimes physically stressful, but I do enjoy most of the work. I'm just so confused as to why I'm feeling this way, but one thing for sure, is that I do feel lonely and more depressed.

 

@Namekian23 that is indeed my biggest challenge. When i am so tired and stuck in bed i want to mo.

 

There is an acronym used in 12 steps called H.A.L.T-Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired. They say if we're any of these things we're more likely to relapse.

As has been said in these forums a few times before, the real underlying problem is an emotional issue, the choice of engaging in sex/porn is almost incidental. It could have been cocaine, an OCD personality, alcohol, food, gambling, cigarettes or Oreo cookies-and for some it is a combination of different things. For whatever reason though we medicate ourselves with sex. So your friend is right, we do try to fill a void but if we rely on a certain behaviour to do that-well there's a good chance you could develop an addiction.

You ever hear people talk about 'retail therapy' where they feel down and spend money on items that they hope will make them feel better-I don't think it is too dissimilar.

But I agree with you, this sort of problem does thrive on isolation, but there is a difference between solitude and isolation or as someone else told me there is a difference between being alone and being lonely. It is the loneliness that I need to try and avoid.

I'm glad you shared this insight.

 

I will consider it thank you for the post