Finally Had The PIED Talk With GF... (trigger warning)

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by RebootingProtestant, Oct 10, 2019.

  1. RebootingProtestant

    RebootingProtestant Fapstronaut

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    So, my girlfriend and I have been dating for almost 10 months. We have had such a great time thus far, and to say we love each other very much would be an understatement. Tonight, we tried to spice it up a little and try some casual dry humping but in a different position. Normally, we would do that for a bit and I would get tired (from PIED mostly) and then we would snuggle. Super wholesome stuff. (We are Christians and don't believe in sex before marriage btw) However, tonight in this new position, I got hard for a but but it didn't last long and while we both enjoyed it, I basically told her that while I have quite masturbating every day, the road to recovery is a difficult one. To my amazement, she just pulled me close and said that she would love me no matter what and that she wanted to help me as I am on this road to sexual and mental recovery. I could not be more thankful for her, and I thank God for allowing her to come into my life. This will not be an easy fight, but tonight gave me strength. My next goal is to get to 1 month, so wish me luck my nofap brothers.
     
  2. Suk

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    I'm currently dealing with PIED too and have similar experiences but my girl thinks that something is wrong with her and not me, she thinks that she can't turn me on, but that's not true, I've had boners before when she sat on my lap or even touched me. I recently have discovered that i have Pied and i said that to her but since it was our first sexual experience she has a hard time believing it, I'm thinking I'll quit porn and show her that it wasn't due to her but I'm kinda scared that what if i can't get erect again, it might reinforce that idea...any ideas that might help?
     
  3. RebootingProtestant

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    Well, this is a GREAT question, and I would encourage you to stop porn not only for the sexual advantages, but also mental and emotional. However, on a basic physiological level, PIED all comes down to brain chemistry. With this particular scenario, the brain has become wired to activate the pleasure centers for porn not women. This is problematic for real sexual encounters. However, just as the brain gets re-wired by porn, it can also become un-wired from it and instead, will revert back to the basal stimuli (real women) that turned you on in the first place. Again, this process of re-wiring all comes down to good old fashioned time. In order for your mind to return to a normal state in which your pleasure centers are at a healthy level of receptiveness, you must remove the negative stimulus (porn). Not only that, but real sexual encounters will help out as well. It does not matter if they are successful, as long as you are getting it up to a real woman, the brain will begin making connections, linking women and sexy time, with boner time. Hang in there brother and you've got this.
     
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  4. Suk

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    Thank you soo much for the help
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  5. Consencus

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    Can relate to you fully. I was in bed with a really hot chick at a party both of us were going to fuck but I ended up not getting an erection at all due to my PIED. She kept on telling me if it was her, if she wasn't turning me on and whatever. I can assure you she was fucking hot and turning me the heck on but my PIED was just a disaster. Till this day she thinks she can't turn me on but I took a step back and away and just working on rebooting myself. Hope this never happens again.
     
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  6. Suk

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    Brother i feel you, it's one of the worst feelings ever as it's something really unexpected...but don't let this one incident define your sexual life, quit PMO and we can have a great healthy sexual life...I wish you all the best.
     
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  7. Ghost237

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    I feel for you guys. I’ve dealt with the same shit. Definitely one of the worst feelings I’ve ever experienced and with a girl a really cared about. Hopefully we can stay strong and get past this. I just keep telling myself that it’s either porn or a successful love life/future family, ya know?
     
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