I am almost 21 years old and I am still a virgin. On Halloween I was at a party and met a girl. She brought be back to her room and we laid in her bed and made out but that's all we did. The next day I asked her why we didn't go further and she said that she didnt think I wanted to and if I did want to I should have been more aggressive and more forward. I'm happy because that's the first time I've "slept" with a girl but I'm also upset with myself that I didn't try to do anything more than kiss. I know that it's the guys job to be assertive and aggressive but I was really hoping that she would take control. Has this happened to anyone else? What should I do in the future? Should I ask her if she wants to do more or should I just go for it and start taking her clothes off and stuff like that. Any input would be appreciated. Thanks!