Finally told my wife/therapist/recovery group

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Jfree, Dec 12, 2017.

  1. Jfree

    Jfree New Fapstronaut

    Ok well i finally told my wife after years of not saying anything but i couldn’t take it anymore and keeping it. In secret was just allowing me to relapse without real pressure and made me continue with my actions thinking i could do it alone. So she flipped out. Most likely hates me. Doesnt want a relationship with me at all. Now shes trying to help me as much as she could but its hard because of her feelings of betrayal and not wanting to hear too much about this issue. I went to see a therapist, he said he can be my sponser. Which is great, He’s easy to talk to. I also been listening to a podcast. That said its just not enough sometimes to have a therapist you can speak to sometimes.. or a GF or wife who cant take or understand everything that you say so its not the safest route. He has a group you can join, but it costs, of course. So i started my own now, had one before but no one was really dedicated. So this one is on an app,thats not porrelated.. with documents on info, as well as recovery steps and tools, group chat, voice call meetings, check in tasks, milestones ect.. we all create a recovery plan which i heard about from the porn free recovery plan that never fails... i feel alot of ppl are just white knuckling . (Trying to avoid porn until a relapse) instead of actually retraining the brain to kill the urges and fight the addiction. Its a process that took place in the brain when we got addicted, theres a process to retain it back. And if anyone’s at their rock bottom like me, losing my family and sanity, and is at their lost end and willing to really commit to beating this together then just hit me up. Lets work, lets get clean.
  2. Joe1023

    Joe1023 Moderator Assistant Staff Member Moderator Assistant

    That's great that you told your wife. Most guys, myself unfortunately uncluded, don't have the guts to tell their wives willingly. Only when we're confronted with proof do most guys admit to the full extent of what we've done. That's also awesome that you're talking to a therapist. Although, I'm not sure I'd stick with him if he charges to join a support group. That's also great that you're starting your own group, but have you checked out the official SA groups? (To find one near you, go to )
  3. This thread is from 2017 and the OP hasn’t been here since Jan. 2018.
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  4. Ajikan

    Ajikan Fapstronaut

    That's disappointing.
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  5. Awedouble

    Awedouble Fapstronaut

    I wonder how the OP is doing these days. Also I noticed the group was online, I hope people realize the limitations of having it online vs. in person, face to face meetings. Yes SA meetings are going to be awkward, but a part of it is not being stuck online all the time. It also took me a long time to come out with the 3D model that addresses cross-addiction since people tend to think in terms of their issue only, but some of the out of box stuff people are doing to support their recovery really doesn't take long to read about if given a chance.
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  6. Joe1023

    Joe1023 Moderator Assistant Staff Member Moderator Assistant

    Wow. Pretty sad that no one bothered to comment on this post.
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