Find it impossible to have a conversation

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by Wolves, Mar 13, 2018.

  1. Wolves

    Wolves Fapstronaut

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    Often when I communicate I find it impossible to express myself. I've been suffering from severe brain fog for the last two years. I find it impossible to talk to people. The brain fog feels as if there is a blockage between my brain and my communication. It is hard to have a regular conversation with someone as I often get very confused when talking. I find it impossible to talk to people. I even find it hard to communicate with my mates. They will be talking to me and we and when I try to respond and explain something I always end up slurring my words. Often when I talk it sounds like I'm very confused. I often make mistakes and I often have a difficult time properly explain myself and people won't be able to understand me. People who don't know me, Often think I'm dumb as I will have a very hard time explaining myself.

    I'm sick of not being able to talk to people properly. I've been watching porn since I was 11 years old and these communication problems only started occurring when I was 16. Which is around the time I tried to quit porn. When I was 15 and before that are used to be able to have a proper conversation with people and I was even able to tell stories and funny jokes and people would like talking to me. I'd have a lot of interesting stuff to tell, But now it is just like I'm a boring person. When having a conversation, I will never be able to express myself Ollie and get my point across. I slurred hates and don't say words properly. This is all because of porn, I never ever used to have these problems until I noticed my brain fog.

    When someone is explaining something to me and I'm having a conversation with them. I'm never able to respond properly, the only replies I can come up with is yeah and okay. But I can never come back have a proper reply and continue on the conversation, this often screws up my conversations with new people.The conversation is the worst of the relapse and off then off for the first day of relaxin the only person I'm able to talk to properly as my mum, I even struggle talking to my mates are three laps and then they will have way more to talk about the make and it's just like, brain-dead zombie who walks around and doesn't know anything. I just feel so stupid all the time. The messages to my brain to site clearance not allowing me to respond properly and come up with conversation. I can' The conversations are worse after relapser off then off for the first day of relaxin the only person I'm able to talk to properly as my mum, I even struggle talking to my mates are three laps and then they will have way more to talk about the make and it's just like I'm a brain-dead zombie who walks around and doesn't know anything. I just feel so stupid all the time. The messages to my brain to sign clearance not allowing me to respond properly and come up with conversation. I can't access stuff in my brain, is like everything I know has been forgotten. I've had a lot of good times over the years and learnt a lot, so I should be able to talk to people. But nothing comes up to talk about. And if I have anything to talk about it, I won't think about it until later.


    Does anyone else offer these communication problems?? It's not an issue of confidence or Anxiety. I feel like I am a very confident person and if I didn't have these communication issues and feel so stupid all the time, I could actually start a conversation with people and be very communicative.
     
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  2. For_The_Crown_^=^=^

    For_The_Crown_^=^=^ Fapstronaut

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    Hey Wolves,

    I totally have issues communicating all the time myself. I know it's especially bad when I've been escaping or obsessing over stuff a lot. Definitely have days where I feel really stupid and incompetent and pretty useless as a man. I sat through an important meeting today and didn't have the cajones to speak up and ask questions. I was pretty fog brained today too. I think a lot of it was lack of sleep though. Just didn't have motivation to care about boring tasks today.

    Today I relapsed, lied to my wife, and then fessed up finally when she obviously knew (could smell my bull$h!7 from a mile away). I would have been able to enjoy connecting with her and probably very satisfying sex had I just waited...

    I don't know what led to all this. But I know I didn't get good sleep the night before, I didn't accomplish chores and other things to take care of myself, and I did a poor job expressing my needs for connection with my wife the day before. I'm disgusted with myself for my dishonesty.

    Thanks for posting and thanks for listening.
     
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  3. @Wolves Hi. I have some ideas that you could try. Watch good quality stand up comedy - the kind of shows that come up not just with humour, but also with great ideas (for instance George Carlin, Russell Peters, Pablo Francisco, etc). Read jokes, you'll find plenty on the Internet. Developing a great sense of humour is extremely important and useful for your evolution in society and as a partner in arelationship.

    Watch interesting documentaries, like Forged in Fire, How the universe works, documentaries about other cultures and civilisations (for instance the Inca empire, Amazon tribes), etc.

    Also, you may want to consider taking up the acoustic guitar. This will 'force' you to have a clear prononciation while you play the guitar.

    You could try taking up a team sport, because in such sports you have to communicate a lot and take responsibilty for your actions as a team member.

    Some people are lucky to be born with qualities, talents and skills. Others (like me, for example), have to do lots of work to improve just a bit. Very often I've felt extremely frustrated, but I've accepted that life is not like in movies.
     
  4. I have similar problems when communicating with others. It's really hard to hold up your end of the conversation when you are not focused. I find myself focusing on myself a lot instead of absorbing what others are saying. Next time you talk to someone, notice what's going on within yourself. Are you thinking about what to say next instead of hearing them? Are you worrying about your body language, eye contact, or whether or not you are smiling enough? Also, you said that you can talk properly with your mom. What do you notice about yourself when you talk with her that might be different from when talking to others?