Findom/femdom addiction that needs to stop!

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MarkTheShark

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Hello everyone! For the past two years, I have been struggling with an addiction that started rather basic. I'm talking about the findom kink. I have been in a relationship with my significant other for almost 3 years but that still has not stopped me from indulging with this fetish online. I feel horrible about it because I really do have a love for this person but I can't stop this feeling I have for this fetish. It started from a foot fetish and worked it's way up to humiliation and now even cuckolding porn and speaking to dommes online. I need to stop today!
 
Fighting this addiction is NOT an easy task. It’s a daily thing, and it takes dedication, persistence, hard work and patience. This addiction needs to be absolutely fought one day at a time. Never expect perfection from yourself, that’s unrealistic. Expect setbacks, near-misses, obstacles, and some relapses. The main thing is progressive victory. Just be sure to remember that, progressive victory.



The following is a list of tools & resources to help fight this addiction:


- Go to weekly SA meetings and find a sponsor there. To find one near you, go to https://www.sa.org/meetings/

- Do an internet search for CSAT office in your area (Certified Sexual Addiction Therapist)

- Find an accountability partner if you don't already have one. Many are available here on NoFap.

- Look for help online; There are sexual addiction recovery books, workbooks, self-help books, Youtube videos and MANY other things to help.

- Start a journal about your recovery. On NoFap, somewhere else online, in a word document offline, or even with pen and paper.


- Obtain a copy of the book used by the members of SA meetings, which is commonly referred to as “the white book” which can be purchased here: https://www.sa.org/store/product_info.php?products_id=32

- Put safeguards in place to help you stay sober. Think of your weaknesses and eliminate them.

- Do you take your phone (or any other device) into the bathroom with you and relapse because of it? Then make a rule to never take any electronic device into the bathroom with you, ever. NO EXCEPTIONS.

- Do you read erotic literature and relapse because of it? Make a rule to never read anything that could ever be found in that section of any bookstore ever.

- If you struggle with looking at internet porn or any other addictive material on the internet, get an internet filter to block that category type of website as well as any specific site you know you’re vulnerable to and give someone else the password to it. (Spouse, partner, AP, sponsor, etc.) Obviously, you should not have the password.


And for new users, check out: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/new-users-list-of-rebooting-resources.50878/



I wish you the best of luck, my friend!
 
I understand this addiction. Mine started with various forms of femdom porn, and evolved into an addiction to various forms of domination such as findom and paying for in person domination sessions.

I too have done this amidst a relationship. If you haven't yet clean up your phone and block all of these doms on any outlet you might be contacting them Of course that isn't fool proof in and of itself but alleast it's one more step to go around.

While I personally think this femdom and findom fetish is especially destructive in its own right. Ultimately you're still suffering from a very similar addiction to everyone else here. This website and the support you gain from others is very helpful. You aren't alone.

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I have the same problem and I need help! I cant have a boner anymore when I am in bed because vanilla sex does not arrouse me anymore. I need to stop porn and get my boner back!
 
Guys I have this week exact same thing. Been struggling with it for over a decade. Only been trying to stop since 2015 though. I never even really watched vanilla P. Basically skipped right to this kinda crap. Anyway I am in an accountability group on Kik with two other guys if any of you are interested in joining.
 
Low serotonin is the cause and I have a thread in my profile for curing this addiction. It's under "information" then "find all threads".
 
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