First 24 hours, my story

Hello!
I just want to share some thoughts and ask some questions to the experienced "NoFappers".
I discovered this website before a couple of days, and it was really an eye-opening experience, like a slap in the face. Just reading the info material made me think "Holy shit, that's me".
I was surprised how i had been neglecting the addiction for so long, since i was a teenager, i'm 31 now. Whenever i did something compulsive or spent time searching for more intense and tabu porn i was totally fine with it, "it is completely natural, it's my dirty little secret, i have needs", i did not see how it made my life quality worse. I had zero clue!! Somehow i've never had a problem admitting i have a mediocre alcohol problem but when it came to porn and how it changed me and my life - well, i didnt even seek rationalisation because i didnt need to, it was guilt free.
The first turning point was the beginning of this year when i discovered sissy kink. I had never in my life had such an urge, i even remember before a couple of years a girl jokingly ask me if i have fetishes and if id like to be taken sexually, didn't trigger a thing. Now looking back i see that loneliness because of corona and having a long distance relationship not be able to meet played a big part in my addiction going further (not that it wouldnt develop over time anyway). Smoking weed made it worse, going into a vicious cycle. Fast forward a couple of months, me buying tons of stuff from erotic shop and exposing to webcam girls online, spending hundreds of euros per month.
But still... it was "simply my fetish, many people have it, it's my dirty little secret, it's how i relax!".
The 2nd turning point was recently when i discovered it takes more and more effort to enjoy sex with my gf which made me start to google.
Anyway here i am, day 1 in the PM journey.
One thing which im not sure about - how do you deal with fantasies which occur without using erotic content - do you try to get rid of them? Seems like such an approach would make it the forbidden fruit and make it worse, i just let myself fantasize and eventually they fade. And do you forbid yourself to look at women in public? I think having a glimpse is fine, without starting to stare.

Also i'm looking for a reboot partner however you call it.

Thanks guys and keep going strong!

 

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