First day at work

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Kingfish, Nov 6, 2018.

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  1. Kingfish

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    I've always been guilty of surfing porn in the bathroom at work or when on break. Today, i'm on day 3 and I feel ok with no porn. On my phone, I have games, sports, books and these forums which I consider a journal.

    I may consider looking over the course of the day but I just remember that this is a big problem, o want to overcome it, and I bring myself back using mindfullness strategies. I can do this and if I reset, a failure is ok if I accept why I did it and how I can improve upon it.
     
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  2. Air0

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    I wish you luck you can do it! I suggest locking up your phone when you're on break or in the bathroom. It will help
     
  3. horny nerd

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    I would make it harder to view that on the phone either through apple restrictions in the settings in iphones or google family link app for androids. Have a friend or someone set up the password and tell them to never tell you the password no matter what. I did this and it is the only thing that has really helped. Other than that get exercise and try to have fun. It is hard, but you can make it if you really try. If none of this works get a flip phone. You have to get serious with getting rid of PMO or you will never get rid of it.
     
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  4. BravelyKegger

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    honestly the best thing you can do is leave your phone at home, i realize it will make work even more boring but you dont need to be tempting yourself. I would suggest bringing a book to work and read it on break.
     
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  5. Kingfish

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    I know how to get around passwords and I would rather have it there and say NO. I don't have an urge to look at it. I find more interest looking at other things. As for leaving my phone at home, doesn't work for me. Thanks but no thanks.
     
  6. BravelyKegger

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    what do you mean it doesnt work for you? do you even want to kick your addiction?. Because until you take this seriously you NEVER will. Dont even waste your time on this site because you obviously are not prepared or willing to handle this monumental task. Leaving your phone at home will 100% fix your problem, i pray you will wake up one day and take this serious.
     
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  7. Kingfish

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    I do take it seriously but your bullish tone doesn't help. I take calls on my phone from clients and family daily. I do accept I have a problem and I want to repair it.
     
  8. BravelyKegger

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    you are not going to be taking client calls on your cellphone at work or family calls, They have work phones for that. I get it work would be boring without your phone but you are making excuses for yourself.
     
  9. Kingfish

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    I respect your opinions and you may very well be right. If I relapse at work, I will leave my phone at home but I have a strong tools that have assisted me in other difficult situations in my daily life. Hence, the reason for now I say thanks but no thanks.
     
  10. BravelyKegger

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    the fact that you are on here at all shows that you cant control yourself and you dont need to be taking it to work, seriously if you leave it at home your problem will literally be non existent, you have it easier than so many of us.
     
  11. Kingfish

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    Home is worse for my usage. Hours on toilets, driving in car, even when my wife is a couch away. I'm quitting because I suffer from ED, i'm quitting because i love my family, i'm quitting because I've rebooted my work and social life altogether. I'm quitting because I realize I've substituted my porn choices for the bullying and ruthless treatment I suffered over 20 years ago. I'm being quiet because I know it's a problem and I admit it and I'm taking it seriously with my therapist as well as EMDR treatments.

    Honestly, for the first time in a very long time I feel like i'm driving the bus with my emotions , desires, anxiety, depression, vanity, wants, and other negativities in the back, not driving me
     
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    Breaks over thank you for your advice.
     
  13. horny nerd

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    Kingfish you have got to get a dumb phone. Think of this seriously. Throw away your phone and get a dumb phone. They have some for 5$ at dollar general. You have to treat this like what it is a very hard addiction to get rid of. Think of your life without PIED and being healthier and happier. Think about what your family needs.
     
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  14. Kingfish

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    I thank you for your words.
    I shall strongly consider it
     
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    You have to be the best version of yourself for your family. You have to live life with no regrets. Think of yourself in couple years with a worsening PMO addiction and feeling horrible. You might regret not just completely getting rid of it when you already knew it was harming your life. Stay strong. You can do this.
     
  16. Dudes_manrod

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    Speaking with some experience I agree with Horny Nerd on his "dumb phone" advice. Swallowing some pride I had a family member lock my Iphone at one point, and eventually switched to a flip phone, both of which preceded great streaks of time without relapses. You set yourself up for greater success just by cutting out the access before the cravings hit.

    Remembering a TED talk recently about internet addiction, the woman made a comment; "don't rely on your willpower, set up structures in your life that will protect you". Take the time now while you're a motivated, family-first Doctor Jekyll to hide the cars keys from PMO Mr. Hyde! You just can't trust that guy..
     

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