First kiss & make out session questions

If she pushed your hand back then you were too aggressive if anything. It's a second date, just let it happen.

 

Just focus on her, you won't feel that same craze and horniness as you do with porn. And should also probably talk about sex before you do anything bud it's the 2nd date. If she stopped sex from happening if anything it makes more of a keeper.

 

I think you're rushing into things too fast. The blandness you feel I would say is due to lack of romance, but romance takes time, effort, and sacrifice. The exact opposite of everything porn conditions us for. So take your time, focus on her and you'll be able to get out of your head. Also, if you couldn't see yourself with this woman for the rest of your life I wouldn't be having sex with her. Otherwise you are just using her, and then she becomes no more than a substitute to the self gratification of pm.

 

At two dates you are just beginning to get comfortable with each other. Take your time and get to know her. Don't expect anything. If you are making out half naked on the second date things are moving quickly. Dating isn't a porno it's a dance. Enjoy it. She knows you want to go further so just have fun making out and wait for her to escalate things. Maybe even try pulling back a little on your next date meaning don't even go as far as you did the last time. Enjoy the process of getting to know her. All of the advice in this thread so far seems good to me.

 

It happened the same to me, on my first kiss , it was nothing special i didnt felt anything when i did it

 

How’s everything going now ??

 

@StreetJesus305 Great signature.

Yeah. I've also longed to kiss a woman for months and then did it and felt absolutely nothing.
Sometimes it is also just that I was seeking for gratification (highness). Sometimes there's just no chemistry, it's a crazy thing. Sex happens in the mind, not in matter.

EDIT: Oh, as for the girl you're dating, I know what does it feels to be anxious but I would enjoy every second of it. She's already into you.

 

This gent is bang on. I've got some sexual experience under my belt, and what I've realised from many relapeses is that it is not exactly the sex act itself which I crave but the intimacy. I've only been using porn for maybe 4/5 years, and even then only maybe once every two days (not that I don't want to quit before it gets worse!) and one of the things I've noticed is that porn, even at my worst, was never enough for me. It was romance which I wanted; that is the difference between sex and masturbation. Proper, loving sex will leave you feeling content, masturbation always leaves you craving more. Anyway, really nicely done on the reboot, and good one deleting Tinder. I'd say it's probably the worst dating app there is, and dating apps ain't great anyway.

 

I had the same feeling: for me, it's not 'just sex' that I wanted. In the first place, I crave intimacy and connection with the girl, sex is like a 'next level'. I know there are people (maybe even the majority) that can enjoy sex without this connection and it's not a problem if both sides are left happy. The only problem is that in such an environment (where everyone is hooking up and it's totally common), one might feel like a weirdo when sex isn't the main thing.

Anyways, good luck on your journey!

 

I'm happy that it landed well.
I have been on consistent streaks for at least three years now (wow! yes, that's a lot of time trying now that I write it...).
I am to this day one year without seeing porn. In this last year I did like three streaks of 30/40 days M free, and the rest of the time I focused on just lowering the average times I did it per month. I kept track of it in a notebook, colouring the days I marturbated. Once I felt prepared I enlisted in this 90 day streak. But my aim is to totally change my wiring altogether, as the 90 days is just something to keep going. The important thing is to not crave it anymore, and to build new paths.

 

Maybe you are demisexual