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Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by balls5570, Apr 9, 2021.

  1. balls5570

    balls5570 Fapstronaut

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    Hello

    This is basically my first post ever on this website even though I joined last year. The first time I ever attempted rebooting I would say I got about 12 days and I basically haven't tried since. I started dating a girl in November 2020 and we didn't have sex until January 2021. I was a virgin before, though I had had oral sex before. I was using porn over this time, but two days ago I decided to stop. We would have sex, and ti was really enjoyable, but I would go home and still use porn without even really thinking about it. It was like I really enjoyed sex with her but I needed just a little bit more to satisfy my sexual appetite.

    I personally am into some BDSM type porn which does scare me sometimes. I recently told her about some of the stuff I like, I already know that she is into being dominated and I have done that for her. I think that if we open up this sexual part of ourselves it really could be ideal and satisfying for me, granted I do not use porn any longer. This is basically the first girl I have ever really dated.
     
  2. balls5570

    balls5570 Fapstronaut

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    Actually my bad I am wrong I did do one full length post last year in June which I forgot about. Apparently I made it month without porn(but was masturbrating to orgasm during that time.) Any and all replies are welcome. Just trying integrate.
     
  3. p1n1983

    p1n1983 Fapstronaut

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    This is what matters. If she is into the same things that you are then is not going to be a problem. Most woman are not into it but this woman is into it so enjoy it with her. Be honest with what you like and lister to her likings too and meet in the middle so both of you can have fun with it.

    The problem with porn is scalation. Today you like BDSM that scares you, someday in the future if you don't stop, this content is not going to scare you at all and you are going to scalete in the content you are looking and is going to be even more hardcore. You are going to get to a level of porn that is not going to be acceptable for any woman in the world so you are only going to get it from porn, and that's when you are going to prefer porn over sex with a normal woman.
     
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  4. Starfinder89

    Starfinder89 Fapstronaut

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    I have heard from some friends, that even though they have a good relationship they still NEED porn sometimes. They've described it as if their gf can't fully satisfy them and they need the additional 20% from porn to get to 100% satisfaction.
    That seems like an arousal disorder of some kind and I took that as a personal note for myself.
    On the other hand for some people porn is not a problem at all, so I'm not judging. I think you have to make that out with yourself (and your partner).
     
  5. balls5570

    balls5570 Fapstronaut

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    Thanks. Yea, I mean most of the BDSM I am into doesn't necessarily scare me, its just that I can tell I am getting off the rails sometimes when I over use porn in short period of time
     
  6. balls5570

    balls5570 Fapstronaut

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    Yea, thank you. I have told her that I stopped using porn and jerking off, but I didn't necessarily explain why or anything about porn addiction. I really really want to get to a point where she is all I need.
     

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