First test with girl after 90 days nofap

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Stupidbeginner, Jun 25, 2020.

  1. Stupidbeginner

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    Yo guys hope that everyone is doing just fine, im gonna be brief.
    So today Im something like 88 days no porn and 1 months hard mode I had the chance to go out with a friend of me.. We studied together in high School and we were verry close.. During the quarantaine we spoke in messenger and it was clear that she wants me to fk her.
    Any way, I was excited but at the same time I was paranoïd af that my engin will not work.. ( how miserable I am I have plenty of chicks aarround me but .. :( )
    So I decided to buy a ED pills to be more secure because anxiety was killing me literally..
    So yeah I drinked the blue pill 50 mg an hour before.. But man, nothing happened down there absolutly nothing man I think God that we were just in car ( I live now with my parents no studies Because of Corona) I felt like there is no connexion between my Mind my body and my dick I was kissing her touching her playing with her nipples everything u can imagine to get arrousal but nothing she touched me she was searching my dick but she didnt found it lol what can I say more man bring whisky. Sorry for my English but it doesnt suck as much as this shitty situations I was expecting huge difference but yo now I can say im Impotent before I was weak.
     
  2. DETWK

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    Sounds like you hit a flatline, brother. It's normal and passes with time. Don't let it get to you. Your dick still works it's just the flatlining that's stopping it right now. Your brain is rewiring itself and fixing itself so that's a good sign. Stay strong and good luck.
     
  3. Stupidbeginner

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    Thanks man appreciate your reply.. Any way thats what I say to myself to keep going this journey and guess what even if we didnt had sex the girl texted me and she said that she enjoyed and that she wants me even more and now ofc my dick is responding what an irony
     
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  4. DETWK

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    That's a good sign, though! You're progressing in your journey.
     
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  5. Stupidbeginner

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    I will stick to nofap and I will Always share updates untill the day I post that Im healed hopefully that will be soon. But its still hard thought and especially mentally but I was either way living like a shit. Idk what to say I feel really confused thanks for encouragement and all the best to You.
     
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  6. johnsoe

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    Did you take viag_ra & nothing happened?!
     
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  7. Stupidbeginner

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    Yea man no response at all. Before I had normal sex with it I mean I had decent degree of erection but today nothing at all. I dont know if is a good or bad sign but any time time will say.
     
  8. johnsoe

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    But you had an erection afterwards? Anyway, if you have trouble with erections even with vi.. you might have to check with a health professional. The pills should work regardless of the mental state. Are you taking any other medication/supplements? Or have had any cardiovascular medical history?
     
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  9. oldpunk

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    That is not true at all. Even the product sheet of said drug clearly states that you need to be aroused in order to get erection with the drug. No arousal -> no erection. I suggest you familiarize yourself with the biological mechanism about how these drugs work.

    It was the same for me. I was so sensitized for porn and desensitized for real women that I couldn't get erection even by using ED drugs. Now at day 64 I feel that I might be able to have sex without ED drugs at all.
     
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  10. Stupidbeginner

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    Man thats what I was expecting but apparently I need more time.
     
  11. bigboibez

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    yeah this is wrong viagra is a blood flow thing and PMO causes dopamine issues. if you have PIED viagra wont help because the problem isnt with your heart its with your head.
     
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  12. bigboibez

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    It sounds like you have anxiety man. That shit KILLS everything in the bedroom.

    Keep going on the nofap journey, at the end of the day it will not make it worse, it can only get better. Try not to force sexual situations and if it happens it happens. But anxiety will kill it no matter if you have PIED or not.
     
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  13. SynapticMagic

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    Yeah I agree with what others have said about it mainly being performance anxiety. I think the anxiety is probably interacting with your history of porn use, but the anxiety is a big one. Whether it's the anxiety or the porn, the only way forward is to stay on nofap and try again. Try to keep yourself more calm and just allow whatever to happen, to happen.

    I've found if you go down on a girl and make sure she really enjoys herself, then explain to her that you're just having issues because you're super stressed or something like that, she won't have an issue. The fact that you're willing to take care of her and being totally cool not getting anything in return will set you apart from most guys. She'll want to come back. The more experience you get with a real girl, the more you'll rewire your brain for human-human contact. You'll also become less anxious about not being able to perform because it's like, "oh well if I don't NEED to perform, then there's no issue, right?" That's a huge confidence booster, and huge attractiveness booster.
     
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  14. Kexas23

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    The anxiety is all in your head, and it is the reason you didn't get aroused. Happened to me right around when I hit 90 days one time. The next morning, I felt very relaxed and was able to perform.
     
  15. Di.Do.555

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    One month is nothing.
    If u want a real change you need to do 120+ and even longer.
    Plus you have to do affirmations every day and better it be written.
    I hope that helps
     
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  16. Stupidbeginner

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    The reason why I took V was to give me more insurance I mean im pretty sûre that anxiety was the main reason why I ddidnt perform.. Imagine, we were already noticing that were not doing well sexually and then we discover that its due to porn and we started nofap its pretty clear that will put much pressure in mind so I inderstund and on plus of this I think also I have stress about size of penis mine measure at best days 5.7 inshes so yeah these are reasons and yeah the town where I live now is really small so everyone know everyone and I was paranoing that if I didnt perform good everyone ( girls talk about that between them) that I will Be known for impotent. Man I need a long vacance.. Thanks for your reply it means really a lot.
     
  17. Stupidbeginner

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    Yeah you are right Im sure that anxiety is reason between others of my problem. I will keep going on the nofap journey and I will start sexual therapy hope that will work.
     
  18. Stupidbeginner

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    Maybe anxiety is even more bad than porn itself ?
     
  19. Stupidbeginner

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    Im in man and I will stay away from porn for the rest of my Life I will post updates thanks.
     
  20. Kexas23

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    Anxiety comes from fear. Fear is a common enemy of man. Porn use and its abuse is also based on fear.
     
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