First time ever

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by riobaldo, Dec 9, 2018.

  1. riobaldo

    riobaldo Fapstronaut

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    Fellow fapstronauts,

    Maybe as a result of NoFap, I started talking to this gver pretty girl after class and spent a long time talking before she took the bus, she my asked number and told me she wanted to go drink coffee with me sometime.

    I was absolutely shocked cause it's a first time ever and it was actually her who started conversation. She's learning my native language so she tries to speak and I help her, we have a lot in common.

    So I text her, invited her to meet in front of my building in city center (she lives in a bad area of the city) to have coffee somewhere but it will be raining and I'll propose she come over to my apartment. Problem is I don't have a clue what to do with her in my place. Maybe she will want to go elsewhere and that's fine too. Also she is very friendly so maybe she is just friendzoning me already.

    I saw her kissing a guy after class like three months ago and don't know if she has a boyfriend. But if she did I don't think she would come to another guy's place like that, right? If she just wants to be friends it's ok cause NoFap is also about not seeing girls as pussy only. But I definitely would like to make some moves to find out what she wants.

    I'm very happy and also nervous cause I don't know how to proceed. Any advice is much appreciated, have a nice day.
     
  2. Master Of Puppets

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    I'm happy for you, good job. You stated that you saw her kissing another dude so I just want to tell you to be careful, she's probably a whore. If you feel comfortable enough, you should maybe ask about her relationship status and about that guy she kissed. Now, things to do in your little date. You could watch movies, play games, muck around, etc (lol idk).

    All the best man and I hope you have some fun.
     
  3. riobaldo

    riobaldo Fapstronaut

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    I do believe she's a whore, from experience I can spot one easily, I'm around 70% sure. I don't care much but I'm a virgin and don't feel losing it with a whore is a good idea even though don't want to wait a decade for the "right girl". And since I'm not a lucky guy I feel kinda sick today...
     
  4. Master Of Puppets

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    The "right girl" is worth the wait. Whores have the capability of breaking your heart or even ruining your life. If you are positive that shes a whore then it's best not to get intimate with her and at the very least, only remain as friends.
     
  5. riobaldo

    riobaldo Fapstronaut

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    I understand the dangers man, I'd really like to get laid with this girl who is a gorgeous german blonde(like in porn i used to watch, yes I don't anymore!) but probably a whore. I know it's rare but a friends with benefits thing would be amazing because she is definitely not gf material. I fall in love with nice girls easily but with this one, and other previous whores I only want to have sex with them, not much feelings, so heart breaking danger is little. That is the case with this girl. Anyway I'm only supposing she's a whore without knowing it...
    Thanks for advice
     
  6. riobaldo

    riobaldo Fapstronaut

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    So everybody, if you care to know how it went.

    We ended up going to have coffee in a coffee shop and talked for two hours and had a really good time. However she does have a boyfriend (turns out she's not a whore but very friendly and a little slutty though, that's for sure), and he came pick her up and I ended up talking a lot with him and became friends. So I obviously didn't get laid or kiss or anything, but I was able to have a good time, make conversation and look into her eyes for two hours! No awkward what so ever, I had fun with a girl for two hours and everything and that is a major victory for me! Had never done such a thing, I'm proud of myself. And I also have a new friend! So yeah, not everything is about sex, probably there's some nofap benefit in there!
     
  7. whatrichme

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    While it's totally possible to spot a whore, there is a whore in every women. That's human nature.
    There is also a badass in every guy that wants to f every girl like a king.

    There is this term Madonna–whore complex you can google.

    It's very hard to take this in, as I also fussed about my ex gf(s) not being a virgin when we met.
    Easy to imagine, I totally missed the point of the relationship(s).
    If you want to get a girl, you will have to understand women better.
     
  8. Motiv3

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    Let me tell you something, if she started the conversation, she asked your number, she... she she...
    She is interested in you, take her to your home and have a "do thing", if she wants to go its because she is interested in you sexually of course... this "do thing" it's like an excuse it could be a game, a drink, a movie.... you know
     
  9. riobaldo

    riobaldo Fapstronaut

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    I don't know about you but if I had a gf I wouldn't like it if she asked a guy out like that. She did everything guys usually do like starting conversation, asking number and asking me out. I didn't do any of these things. That is what surprised me. Pretty sure the whore inside her is very active, I definitely don't understand women and this one particularly.
     

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