First Timer: The State of Things

It's my first time signing up to this. I live in Europe. I'm a male in my late 20s, and I don't want to hit my 30s with porn and masturbation still sitting as huge weights around my neck. I'll be going PM, not PMO, as I'm married and want to keep and develop a better, more intimate connection with my wife. She's loving, supporting, and we're 100% all-cards-on-the-table with each other. Every time I've ever looked at porn or masturbated since we've been together, I've told her. She knows my history too, and supports me in my desire to be free of porn and masturbation. She's a huge part of why I've decided to join this.

I was first introduced to porn around 17 years ago, when my older brother and his school friend showed me a website with naked women on it. The longest I've been free from PM in all that time is around seven weeks, and that was somewhere around a decade ago. The longest I've managed in the last year is three weeks.

The classic HALT (hungry, angry, lonely, tired) are big triggers for me, as is stress. I seem to use porn as a way to avoid engaging with what I feel/think about myself as a person. I get the impression I'll find I'm unhappy with some aspects of who I am once I stop ignoring it with porn. That will be a strong pull back towards porn. Writing that and making it known is part of not already mentally giving in to it.

Some elements of this site aren't self-explanatory, so I'd welcome a pointer or two in terms of what are some good things to establish here online in the early days.
Thanks.

 

Just some basic strategies people have found successful in getting through the first few weeks, and particularly in combatting the 'chaser effect', which is going to be one of the greater challenges for someone going PM not PMO, according to the guides on here.

 

Many thanks to you both for the good wishes, and for the advice. I'll be sure to keep this at the forefront of my mind in the time ahead.