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Flat line during dating

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by A.Z, Sep 23, 2020.

  1. A.Z

    A.Z Fapstronaut

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    Hi bros,

    So in the 6 last months I am doing nofap. I had a long strike. One of the best things that happened to me during that strike is to meet that girl, and asking her out. She agreed. Sadly I relapsed few days later, but I got back on my feet and I keep struggling to win my addiction.

    It's been almost three months that we are together, but we don't have sex because we are both Jews religious.

    Anyway, I started a new strike 12 days ago, and now I am in a very powerful flat line. I've never been so not sexual.. no erection, no sex thoughts, no morning woods. And I know that it is normal and I have been there previously.

    But my problem is with my girlfriend. It is as if I suddenly have no interest in her.. but I know that just before the flat line I liked her very much, and I wanted to be more and more with her..

    I don't know what to do. She feels that something is not normal with me, but I don't fell like talking to her about my addiction yet. It will scare her. On the other hand- it is hard to lie or pretend that I want to meet her right now.

    Any advice?
    Thanks
     
  2. p1n1983

    p1n1983 Fapstronaut

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    Before flatline you were physically attracted to her, now that you have no libido your physically attraction to her disappeared and only remained your attraction to her as a person, that as you say was not existent.
    Of course she is going to notice it.
    Why are you scare to loose her? you already said that you suddenly have no interest in her.
    Don't do it, just tell her that you are not feeling it.. and move on. She is not making it for you anymore. Also be considerate with her, she really whats to be with you and deserve a guy that really what to be with her, don't lock her down to you.. don't do what you wouldn't like a girl do to you. Let her go and work on your problems before start dating again.
     
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  3. TunaSandwich

    TunaSandwich Fapstronaut

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    I'd tell her about my addiction. You don't know how considerated are people about addictions (specially women)

    Maybe you should wait until your flatline is gone to consider what you want. I mean, if you relationship is new is totally normal to have weak connections, if also you withdraw sexual attraction it's totally understandable that you have "no interest" in her. Tell her about your adiction. Women know almost all men have watched porn at least once. They don't know in what part of the process we are (users, trying to quit porn, not porn users anymore).

    I understand you bro. Consider what I told you. I don't know you but I love you! I wish you the best
     
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