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Flatline and PE got me depressed

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Fallensoldier1, Mar 9, 2019.

  1. Fallensoldier1

    Fallensoldier1 Fapstronaut

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    So today marked 20 days without getting a O from my wife. 20 days is a while, but I wasn’t trying for anything the last 20 days because last time we tried I lost my erection before sex. Partially due to flatline? Performance anxiety? Worrying about finishing too fast and then I couldn’t keep it up? I don’t know.

    But today I was very very horny, we were kissing and then almost as soon as she touched me I felt like I could explode and then I couldn’t even get it in without finishing.

    I can’t help but feel nofap has made my life worse..

    Depression, stress, and anxiety is through the roof, I have had trouble with erections a few times, and am finishing way too soon, and sometimes the flatline has me in a desire to have no sex at all, even if I wanted to, I don’t think I could. Sometimes I’m randomly sore and much more sensitive down there.

    I understand, it’s hard, it takes awhile, and so on, but where are some benefits?? Okay yeah I can make eye contact more and I have had some great days and sleep better, but still very tired throughout the day still.

    I used to say my sex life wasn’t very good because of PMO, but since stopping, it’s got worse!!!!
     
  2. Lilla_My

    Lilla_My Fapstronaut

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    Congratulations on your success! It's obvious your brain is still recovering. Every time we discuss neural plasticity, we talk weeks and months before improvement occurs. A person with OCD, for example, could take a SSRI medication today and have to continue doing that for months on end until improvement was seen. In the meantime the same patient would probably feel like shit. The reason for this is of course that the brain has to grow back in the areas it has gotten destroyed by the illness. The same goes with addiction. P addiction in particular is very nasty to the brain.

    So what are the benefits? I think most women would agree that a man who isn't preoccupied (read: has stopped completely/never started) with PMO is much better in bed for example. Erections get firmer and bigger, he gets more "alive", less "numb", more fun, and more attractive. He gets a certain "glow", and "edge" about him. It takes a while to reach that point, but your wife will thank you for it!
     
  3. Fallensoldier1

    Fallensoldier1 Fapstronaut

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    Thank you for the motivation! I certainly hope you are right. It’s getting so hard to go on like this.
     
  4. C.HNF

    C.HNF Fapstronaut

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    Same here. Before NoFap, I would get very strong boners, etc. As of the moment I started NoFap everything went upside down. I suffer from PAWS and an extreme flatline. What's strange is that before starting NoFap I was pretty happy and self-confident but now I have depression and social anxiety...
    BUT I believe in the process and I urge you to do the same, bro. Everything will be alright and we will recover.
     
  5. Qlata

    Qlata Fapstronaut

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    I WAS LIKE YOU LOL, U NEED CONTROL UR BREATH BELIVE ME. EVEN IF U CLOSE UR EYES WHEN UR HAVING SEX . IN my case doggy position makes me come more faster, if i close my eyes or look to the rooft lol, the sensation dissapear XD sounds funny but that how is work whit me, learn how your body works.
     
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  6. Fallensoldier1

    Fallensoldier1 Fapstronaut

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    well that’s good advice guys but lately I haven’t even had a chance to close my eyes or take deep breaths.

    We tried having sex again tonight and as soon as I enteredike in a couple seconds I went. This is so weird for me. I used to finish after a minute or so and think that I had PE, but this is RIDICULOUS! And it absolutely destroys my self esteem and confidence for sure. Not to mention I know it’s frustrating for my wife.

    I don’t know what to do.
     

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