Flatline- please help!

[Neva]

I'm currently on my day 13 of NoFap (and 30 no P*rn) and It's easy for me, I'm just a bit afraid of flatline waiting for me in about half a moth, and paradoxally not about side effects, i'm gonna deal with it, I'm just a bit afraid of what my family will think about such sudden mood change,I had depressive episode as 14yo and my family is just fucking obsessed on my mood, I won't get any help in nofap if I tell them, and also they will treat me as fucking mental freak if my mood switch to depression instantly, It's not expectation because I know them well and I know their reactions,

So I need some advice how to mask this feeling, how to appear to them normally and continue my job.

 

[desmond3]

Hello brother.

I am not sure about the right way to do it, but so far this is my opinion:

I don't think you should mask your feeling, but you don't have to tell them the whole story either. If mood swing occurs and it hurts your family or friends, just say that and only that. Be humble and admit it, tell them you have the mood swing these days, you feel sorry about it, and that you will work on it and learn how to handle it well. Invite them to give you a friendly reminder whenever this happens again. However, you can always choose whether or not to tell them about your NoFap journey, or whether your mood swing is NoFap-related.

Not sure if this helps, but at least this is what I have been trying to do, and it works pretty well for me. Usually when I admit my misbehavior and be humble, chances are that other people will do the same, giving you love and support, which helps one to stay clean. Also, I believe you can reduce the frequency and intensity of the mood swings by being more considerate and loving in general, which helps fixing this problem at the root level.

I know it is hard to be in your situation, but this is also an important part of one's life: We face difficult problems, try to solve it, and get used to embracing challenges instead of running away from them. Very often, it is our habit of running away which makes us addicted to PMO in the first place. Facing these difficult life situations would definitely help building up the foundation and mentalities required to quit PMO. It may sound like a cliche, but by playing your cards right, what's perceived as "bad" (e.g. life problems) can become something "good".

Good luck to you man, please don't hesitate to ask around whenever you need more help.

 

[Neva]

Hello brother.

I am not sure about the right way to do it, but so far this is my opinion:

I don't think you should mask your feeling, but you don't have to tell them the whole story either. If mood swing occurs and it hurts your family or friends, just say that and only that. Be humble and admit it, tell them you have the mood swing these days, you feel sorry about it, and that you will work on it and learn how to handle it well. Invite them to give you a friendly reminder whenever this happens again. However, you can always choose whether or not to tell them about your NoFap journey, or whether your mood swing is NoFap-related.

Not sure if this helps, but at least this is what I have been trying to do, and it works pretty well for me. Usually when I admit my misbehavior and be humble, chances are that other people will do the same, giving you love and support, which helps one to stay clean. Also, I believe you can reduce the frequency and intensity of the mood swings by being more considerate and loving in general, which helps fixing this problem at the root level.

I know it is hard to be in your situation, but this is also an important part of one's life: We face difficult problems, try to solve it, and get used to embracing challenges instead of running away from them. Very often, it is our habit of running away which makes us addicted to PMO in the first place. Facing these difficult life situations would definitely help building up the foundation and mentalities required to quit PMO. It may sound like a cliche, but by playing your cards right, what's perceived as "bad" (e.g. life problems) can become something "good".

Good luck to you man, please don't hesitate to ask around whenever you need more help.

Thanks Brother, My problem is in fact more like possible panic (of my family) coming from such sudden mood drop ( "he's gonna ki*l himself! Call an ambulance") BUT your solution helped me, I need to try to see it as a challange in my noFap process, not as obstacle and reason to relapse and maybe I'll learn some problem coping skills for the future

 

[antecessum]

I have had some mental health struggles in my distant pass. What I would do in this situation is have a conversation with your parents. I agree that PMO maybe shouldn't be discussed, especially if you don't want to.
In terms of what you would talk about- tell them you don't want to die. Set up some kind of system or word that lets them know you need them now- life or death emergency. This may give them some piece of mind in case you enter a flatline or have any other drastic emotion changes. This really helped me when I was in high school, even though it was for a different reason.
Congrats on your streak!

 

[Neva]

I have had some mental health struggles in my distant pass. What I would do in this situation is have a conversation with your parents. I agree that PMO maybe shouldn't be discussed, especially if you don't want to.
In terms of what you would talk about- tell them you don't want to die. Set up some kind of system or word that lets them know you need them now- life or death emergency. This may give them some piece of mind in case you enter a flatline or have any other drastic emotion changes. This really helped me when I was in high school, even though it was for a different reason.
Congrats on your streak!

Well, I have really really weak communication with my family, we don't understand each other well, They're blaming and judging and that's why I usually do what I have to do by myself without their knowledge, and that's why any mood change could be seen just as a mood change and not as something with a serious reason, In fact my mood is ok and stable since 5 years but you know, If I had mood swing everyone would be like 'it begins again, panic, he has depression out of nowhere again'.However I know only way I could deal with it is through talks, so I need to think of good strategy.
BTW; In my country I'm legally adult as 19 so my parent's don't feel specially obligated to help me in any way except of buying me food etc.