Flirting with triggers relapse

well make our goals

last time i fapped two days ago i held a knife as a simple way out, to me failure is no longer an option, im done fapping

 

You're not starting over, just standing up where you fell and picking up where you left off. Onward!

 

I hear you, I hit 8 days and fell off the wagon. As I've said before my hope is that by constantly trying, we are at least reducing the dopamine fix we used to give ourselves (i.e. several PMOs per day for years has been reduced to several relapses per month).

My goal for beating this next streak is to not peak at the triggers while thinking it wont affect me.

 

I have been allowing myself to flirt with triggers too, fooling myself into believing that I would not be affected. I now see how common this is. It's not just me. Don't beat yourself up, just find an outlet. I recommend getting a "sponsor", kind of like I do for AA, it works..if you ever feel like you are going to slip, you should reach out to your sponsor. I am going to do this myself. I would also recommend calling/contacting this person daily. Also, praying has helped me with my alcoholism and drug addiction, I don't see how this would be much different. I am no better than you, as you can tell by my counter, but we can do this TOGETHER!

 

Yeah, some people will disagree I imagine, but I like to think this effort has not been wasted. Well eight days was my last official record (I had an unofficial 12 day streak goign when I first joined), so I need to try and brake that.

Those damn triggers though...

 

I understand you guys. Sometimes its hard to control to have a relapse specially when flirted with attractive girl. I often fall to this. After talking and flirting with a cute girl I thought I could control it becuase I didn't feel any relapse during the interaction but when I got home that where the hell haunts. I couldn't stop thinking about that girl, and then the urge was so strong that I opened a pornsite and start searching for a girl that kinda look like her. You watch hours and then you jack off. After you orgasm 2-3 times in 1 night you felt guilty and depressed. Then the next day you see the same girl and you couldn't make eye contact, you feel shy, you feel anxiety, you feel you are creeper and even you manage to talk to her that day your vibe is just awfully weird that she'll get creep out. I hate this when it happens to me. But now, I have more control with my urge and emotions, things are getting better for me. I'm in 15 days of my NoFap. My overall vibe around my female co workers are stronger and at the moment I'm seeing a girl. 15 more days to go for me.

Its ok man, don't sweat it. Just start over or continue.