For the first time ever at age 34, I hit 120 days.

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TwistedLife

Fapstronaut
For everyone out there that thinks this isn’t possible to quit the older you get…well now at the age of 34 I’ve had my longest streak and feel better than I have in a very long time.

Back in February I had some health problems develop that took me by surprise (developed shingles on my face) and I knew if I didn’t change anything that it will only get worse…I was lucky that the first time it was not that painful but I’ve heard horror stories that the pain can be so bad that people commit suicide. Now I don’t think my addiction had a direct correlation to shingles, but my overall lifestyle where i developed really bad habits, ate like shit, always stressed and looking for ways to cope and numb the pain has played a part of it. So on Febuary 5th I decided to make a change….and I did.

I’ve attempted to quit a thousand times before….what made this time different? I honestly can’t give you the exact reason but I think it’s along the lines of all the past failures and the urgency of fixing my health that made me want to really change and….eating less. I feel like eating one meal a day not just fixed my porn addiction but all other addictions like my sugar/phone addiction. One meal a day a few hours before bed really saved my life. It creates self discipline. Once you can control your food urges… its incredible what else you can control.

Since then:

-I went from 177 lbs to 150 lbs at 15% bodyfat (almost have 6 pack)

-Exercise everyday with minimum 10,000 steps per day

-Eat way more healthier

-Have a job while currently taking a course to improve in my field

-MUCH more energy….off the charts

-MUCH more social

-Way more focus and attention to detail

-Also I developed a strong faith in God during this time

This is all within 120 days…now I’m not saying this will solve all your problems. Imagine this:

You want to build this car thats in your garage, you have all the parts there and the instruction manual, but the problem is your hands and feet are tied up. All the tools, everything you need is infront of you but you can’t fucking move. Now imagine the knots get cut off and now you’re free to move around. That doesn’t mean the vehicle is complete and finished, you still have a lot of work to do…BUT not being tied up gives you the opportunity to now build this vehicle, its still hard, it still will take a lot of work, but having that opportunity is so valuable…

So for the ones that say “Man I’m on Nofap for 30 or 100 days and don’t see any results”…. it doesn’t work like that. You have to put the work in. Nofap gives you the opportunity to work on achieving results, it doesn’t give you results.

If you have any questions feel free to ask.

Good luck everyone on your journey!
 
Really cool to read, thanks for posting..

did you do anything special to get past the day 14-21 mark?

I keep making it to like 15-19 days and then relapse.. I get a really strong mental desire to view porn and end up giving in.. did you do anything special when a strong urge came up?
 
HealingBodyandMind said:
Really cool to read, thanks for posting..

did you do anything special to get past the day 14-21 mark?

I keep making it to like 15-19 days and then relapse.. I get a really strong mental desire to view porn and end up giving in.. did you do anything special when a strong urge came up?
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Hey brother, honestly, I thought during that time that I would eventually relapse again because I've gone through 2 weeks or a month usually and then relapse.I guess what helped me the most during that specific moment is trying not to think about it. Also, I felt a surge of energy at that moment that I haven't felt in awhile and I tried to alter my perspective of that energy...so usually when that happens that means I am horny and i need to fap but I tried my best to look at it from a way that this energy is supposed to be used in different way. When you don't masturbate you have all this unlimited source of energy and I used it to be active, like going gym or stay busy around the house, that helped quite a bit.

Another tip I would like to mention is fasting...I started it in April but it played a huge part in healing my mind. I had a big sugar addiction and that was a gateway to other addictions like porn/phone. I under estimated the power of food addictions and how it consumes your mind. Being able to control my sugar urges through fasting allowed me to become more disciplined with everything else in life. It was difficult to do in the beginning but man...it was worth it.
 
TwistedLife said:
Another tip I would like to mention is fasting...I started it in April but it played a huge part in healing my mind. I had a big sugar addiction and that was a gateway to other addictions like porn/phone.
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Super inspired by your journey man .. thank you

I want to ask you how could deal with phone addiction especially when you need it for work and communication

And did you have a support group or sth .. tell me more about how you manage your day .. and how do you plan to do so everyday?

Thank you :))
 
Great story and just came here to also share, I'm 44 years old and I've managed my NoFap goal now for more than a 100 days. I've stopped counting, instead I focus every day on getting through it a day at the time. I have been travelling a lot for work which hasn't been helpful, but I still managed to steer clear of temptation. Ironically, I've been enjoying myself in a much better way on my business travel. Instead of sitting in my hotel room, I've sat in the bar with a few drinks, reading books and taking in life round me. In addition, I have made a lot of progress on DuoLingo, improving my fourth language. I've been out on walks, taking in the city life and doing whatever else than being alone in the hotel room. I am still very tired at the end of the week, but that comes from exercise, long walks, a few (not excessive) drinks and sitting up playing DuoLingo to late in the night. :)

I can only echo your sentiment that it is never too late.
 
Voador said:
Great story and just came here to also share, I'm 44 years old and I've managed my NoFap goal now for more than a 100 days. I've stopped counting, instead I focus every day on getting through it a day at the time. I have been travelling a lot for work which hasn't been helpful, but I still managed to steer clear of temptation. Ironically, I've been enjoying myself in a much better way on my business travel. Instead of sitting in my hotel room, I've sat in the bar with a few drinks, reading books and taking in life round me. In addition, I have made a lot of progress on DuoLingo, improving my fourth language. I've been out on walks, taking in the city life and doing whatever else than being alone in the hotel room. I am still very tired at the end of the week, but that comes from exercise, long walks, a few (not excessive) drinks and sitting up playing DuoLingo to late in the night. :)

I can only echo your sentiment that it is never too late.
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Inspired by your journey man and fourth language!! wow man.. I want to ask u about language learning .. do u use anything besides DuoLingo .. I am trying to learn spanish Español nowadays
 
WonderingKid21 said:
Inspired by your journey man and fourth language!! wow man.. I want to ask u about language learning .. do u use anything besides DuoLingo .. I am trying to learn spanish Español nowadays
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Yes, my wife and kids. I'm married and now trying to learn my wife's language. Other than that only DuoLingo, but that is helpful for correct spelling.
 
WonderingKid21 said:
Super inspired by your journey man .. thank you

I want to ask you how could deal with phone addiction especially when you need it for work and communication

And did you have a support group or sth .. tell me more about how you manage your day .. and how do you plan to do so everyday?

Thank you :))
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Hey brother, okay few things:

- So with phone addiction I try to limit it as much as possible to the apps I need on my phone. So for example, I don't need FB, X, or IG on my phone so I only go on it on my desktop. Now, I am at the point where I barely have the urge to go on social media.
- Also have an smart watch that gives me important notifications of someone msgin me/calling me instead of having my phone on me all the time.
- I have a absolutely no phone/laptop in the bed policy. They are in a separate room. Too many failures in the past with those in the room.

Now as time goes on..my phone addiction ended up fading away and now I don't have those urges anymore

No support group. I developed a strong faith in God during this time, I guess that is my support.

The way I manage my day is always keeping busy. Always be doing something productive. So my goal is to get 10,000 steps every single day. First thing I do is go for a run, come home shower, have water/coffee and get to work. After that clean around the house, gym, family and then eat before bed. Just make sure you are always doing something. If you are in your bed or on a couch doing nothing and you have a phone in your hand or a laptop..its a recipe for disaster. Set rules for yourself that you can make a promise you will not break...hope this helps.
 
Voador said:
Great story and just came here to also share, I'm 44 years old and I've managed my NoFap goal now for more than a 100 days. I've stopped counting, instead I focus every day on getting through it a day at the time. I have been travelling a lot for work which hasn't been helpful, but I still managed to steer clear of temptation. Ironically, I've been enjoying myself in a much better way on my business travel. Instead of sitting in my hotel room, I've sat in the bar with a few drinks, reading books and taking in life round me. In addition, I have made a lot of progress on DuoLingo, improving my fourth language. I've been out on walks, taking in the city life and doing whatever else than being alone in the hotel room. I am still very tired at the end of the week, but that comes from exercise, long walks, a few (not excessive) drinks and sitting up playing DuoLingo to late in the night. :)

I can only echo your sentiment that it is never too late.
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Wow congratulations on the 120 days! Sounds like you've got everything in line. You're very productive always doing something and learning your 4th language...wow! Insane. I also don't count much anymore. I have milestones, my next one is 365 days...but I'll go weeks without knowing what my streak is. Congrats on your success brother!!
 
It´s such an inspiring story to read Bro!!! Congratulations!
Especially for me, I am 36 and had quite a similar "start" like you:
At the beginning of this year, I thought I would die.
This led me to reflect about my life and I already quit weed at the beginning of this year,
now I am attacking PMO! Very inspiring to read that people who are in their 30´s and long-term-addicted
also managed it to fight this addiction.
 
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