For those who are looking for a cure.

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by Deleted Account, Apr 22, 2020.

  1. Hey guys, understand this.
    Covering the following issues:
    1. Dealing with performance anxiety.
    2. Dealing with fetishes.
    3. Dealing with PIED.
    4. Feeling depressed.
    Solution guide step by step:
    It's all in the head, every single problem exists in your mind. It got there because of certain mistakes in the past. It can change by fixing your present. I have seen people telling that fetishes can't be cured, etc. If that's going to be the attitude you're going to imbibe, obviously they won't be cured. Give it time, our bodies and mind have tendency to self heal, trust me, it's possible to be fully cured. Read books which promote positivity. You'll heal only if you believe that you'll heal. Don't trust anything that says you can't. First thing I want you to give up is 'reasoning how you got here'. For real guys, just fuck it, don't care about how you got here, what you did, why you did it. IT DOESN'T MATTER ANYMORE. What matters is how we are going to get out of it. Self doubt must be sacrificed. Getting out of depression is difficult because you have formed a loop of negativity in your day to day life. You must break that loop. I see a lot of people are facing problems because of the quarantine. Imagine this, I myself fell back to my habits but then I thought about it. I said to myself, "If I get through this tough time, I'll never relapse on the easy days". That gave me sufficient motivation to deal with my urges and still not fall back to porn. I have all my blockers disabled, I can watch porn right now if I want, but by not watching it, I am proving it to my brain that I'm done with it forever, no matter what. Good luck guys, text me if you need help with an issue :)
     
  2. johnnythejohn

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    Inspirational!! Exactly what I needed. Thank you!!
     
  3. PogbaJack

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    thanks man, lovely message- what would you advise aboud performance anxiety as i feel this and cant get out of my head whenever my gf comes over i start thinking about this
     
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  5. Thanks friend.
     
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    "Whether you think you can, Or think you can't - You're right" - Henry Ford

    Thank you for this amazing thread!
    With the right amount of discipline, Dedication and willpower, Everything is possible!
     
  7. Guys, I am always here to help everybody at a personal level :) You guys can text me your issues I promise we'll get out of it ! :)
    Bro I know it's not easy as it sounds, try getting comfortable with your girlfriend, not just in bed or while having sex, Im talking even normally, it will help you reduce performance anxiety. :)
     
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    I was suffering from performance anxiety as well due to PIED. The best way to deal with anxieties is to put yourself out there in a scary situation until You realise there's nothing scary about it. Try to have sex with your gf. Make yourself comfortable with her and make her comfortable. You might fail at the beginning but it's totally fine and normal. You have to stop thinking that you have to orgasm everytime because you put alot of stress on yourself. There are plenty of other ways to please her in bed. If things still dont work out, try Karezza sex(look it up). Its about connecting with your partner and theres no orgasm involved hence less pressure to perform. Also you might want to share your problem with your gf. myself and many people here did the same and we found it helpful. I bet it will release a huge amount of pressure, You might be surprised of how happy she'll be to help you. Good luck bro! Just relax, take it easy and remember that patience is key. Be brave my friend!
     
    Last edited: Apr 22, 2020
  9. PogbaJack

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    thanks alot i appreciate this guidance, made me feel a bit at ease already
     
  10. PogbaJack

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    thank you!, i will try this, usually when she comes over i start thinkin should i try and have sex? what if i try and i cant get it up? okay maybe i dont try, okay maybe i do. thiese are things in my head. i think next time i will try what you say and if i feel like making a move i should jus make the move rather than thinking too much. thanks man ill try this
     
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