FORGIVENESS! Is it the ultimate guide to defeating PORN?

Discussion in 'Self Improvement' started by AviationFreak97, Oct 3, 2021.

  1. AviationFreak97

    AviationFreak97 Fapstronaut

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    Okay I dont know who needs to here this right now but I am sure there are many of you who do. Its something we all struggle with every single day. FORGIVENESS. Have you truely forgiven those who have hurt you? Have you truely forgiven yourself for hurting you? Its a tough and sensitive topic so I am going to keep this short. I am going to ask this though.

    If you are still struggling with relapsing etc ask yourself. Do you forgive? Keep in mind real forgiveness isnt excepting that it was okay that someone did something or that its totaly fine Im cool with it. You dont have to trust that person or be okay with it. Do you forgive? Just think about that everyday my friends. Best wishes.
     
  2. WildEntheology

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    Amazing advice man, forgiveness is an essential part of recovery. I'm glad you've realized how powerful it can be.

    All the best on your journey!
     
  3. Wayfindertw

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    Yeah with the shame and guilt hanging around after pmo, forgiveness is a decent remedy. Make peace with yourself before moving on
     
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  4. PegasusKid

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    I forgive myself, but not necessarily others. Although nowadays i don't even beat myself up for slipping up so i don't even feel like there is much to forgive to begin with. Self compassion has become my default.
     
  5. WildEntheology

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    When you don't forgive others you are still holding onto the negativity you feel toward them. Forgiving someone doesn't mean that you let them walk all over you or that you even engage with them. Forgiveness of others is ultimately for your own benefit. You deserve the emotional health that comes with forgiving people who have wronged you, even if they never know you've forgiven them.

    And if they can be rehabilitated, then forgiving them is part of that process. Whether or not you want to rehabilitate them is another thing entirely. You might with some people and it might really be worth the effort, other people you might be better served running the other direction and never looking back. Still, forgive them.
     
  6. PegasusKid

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    Yeah, I've heard this concept of forgiveness more times than I can count. But I just don't really resonate with the idea of holding onto negativity personally. I rarely think or feel much about the people who wrong me, I just acknowledged that they wronged me and I moved on with my life. I don't feel much of a benefit or drawback with forgiveness or lack of forgiveness, if others do more power to them. But i don't think forgiveness works if its just not something you care for. Forgiving people would actually give them even more time and energy in my case since I don't think about them 99% of the time.
     
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  7. WildEntheology

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    Yeah fair enough. Honestly it sounds like you really have forgiven them, you just go through that process a little differently. Often forgiveness is as simple as simply letting it go. Does that sound more like how you feel with it?
     
  8. PegasusKid

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    Nah I don't really let stuff go cause I guess I was never too attached to it in the first place if that makes sense. I'm just indifferent to life in general I would say. Situations and people don't really make me feel much either way so thats probably why I just kinda move on from stuff and often forget what even happened in the first place.
     

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