Found out my husband sent my pictures to his co worker. Is this common

I wonder how common or uncommon it really is? I mean, I have never found my husband doing such a thing, or any evidence. But neither have I ever caught him masturbating or evidence of such. I know several of the men’s journals confessed to having done this, only a couple so’s have ever said anything about it happening to them, but of course they didn’t know before they caught it. I think something like this would be the final straw for me. No second chances at this point.

 

They should be careful when they are within crusading distance

 

I have been down this road during my early twenties.

I used to share photos of my now fiancée, no full nudes, but explicit ones, to a specific website to get attention in a time where I was in a fucked up situation with terminally ill parents and losing my job.

for me it was some kind of validation, I had a girl who others also thought looked amazing or something I guess.
I’d share beach photos and some kind of creepshots, but never ever combining face and body in the same picture obviously, and never to people in our “real life” apart from a tiny website somewhere in the weird parts of the web, always deleting them pretty much after a short while.

It was a weird way for me to escape my emotions and just feel some kind of rush.

One day I just broke down crying and realized what an immature prick I had been to her, I told her about my addiction and my behavior and (god bless) she stayed with me.


This is years ago now, and as of today we are engaged and I would NEVER do anything like it again, altough we have shared a few photos together since.

It’s not very common but way more common than we might think.

The only way to leave this behavior fully is to be a man about it and tell the wife/girlfriend about it IMO, and so I did, the follow year I talked to a psychologist regularly to help me understand why and what I was running from in my mind.


I consider myself “cured” and way more mature today, and we are a happy engaged couple.
Everyone can change for the better, but it takes that one must WANT to change, fight the urges and be a man about what’s been done in ones youth.

 

He definitely has stepped over many lines.
duno what to say. it wont get better, only worse