Friend visiting, how do you keep them in the friend zone while doing NoFap - help!

How do you not have sex with someone who you really want to keep in the friend zone, but you know that they are interested in having sex . . .

and they are coming to visit for two weeks . . .

and you are doing NoFap?!

Quick background:

Short version: Its complicated.

Long version: I've been sort of dating someone for 4+ years. I love her. But it's more like a very special friendship. She's cute, but I'm not really into her in that way. I don't want to have sex with her. It kind of makes my skin crawl when she brings it up. We did have sex a few times in the first year. We've agreed to see other people. I moved away 2 1/2 years ago and now we only see each other about once a year, but we stay in touch daily via text. Sometimes we Skype or talk on the phone.

From a purely logical standpoint, maybe it would make sense to have sex. We both have needs. We really care about each other. Neither of us is seeing someone else. But, in my heart it doesn't feel right. To me, sex is very emotionally bonding. I feel like it strengthens a relationship. I kind of feel trapped in this relationship. As a friendship, I cherish it. But I would rather be a little bit less bonded, rather than more bonded.

So, I guess you could say that our relationship is very emotional. But not sexual. I never bring up sex (since I am trying to avoid it). She does bring it up sometimes. She complains about having sexual needs that aren't met.

Our intimacy looks like this: we hug. we cuddle. we kiss some, but not on the lips that much, and never with any tongue. We'll sleep together (spooning, whatever) but our schedules are so different that sometimes she'll be up the entire time that I am asleep, so if we do sleep together, it's rarely for more than an hour or two.

I don't know if any of that makes sense.

Anyway, she is coming to visit for two weeks! She'll stay in my apartment. Sleep in my bed. I really, really don't know what will happen now that I am doing NoFap! Will sexual urges overwhelm me? Will I be able to resist her advances? Am I just a total asshole for not having sex with her?

 

Thank you, that might just be the jagged pill I needed.

Actually we have both been to CoDA meetings, but it’s been a long time. Might be time to go back.

In fact, she doesn’t call me her boyfriend. Just a “special friend”. We talked about how we don’t see ourselves ever getting married or living together. And we both agreed to see other people.
Thing is, I’m not so good at meeting and dating new people and she is even worse!
What a mess . . .

And since neither of us are having sex with anyone else, she pushes me to meet her sexual needs. But, like you said - I have a choice!!

I don’t want to. Just not sure how I’ll feel with her staying with me for two weeks and not sure how well I’ll be able to resist now that I’m not masturbating!