Frustrated and angry : can't get erection when I'm standing up

got my first p shot yesterday and the doctor is throwing in two free gainswave treatments. So I already got one gainswave and one p shot done. Going back in a month for the next set of treatments. I heard that within 3-4 weeks most people see results. Hopefully that’s the case with me. The doctor injected the p shot into a real small area of scar tissue he said I had (I have a small curvature right under the head when I’m erect). Didn’t expect it to hurt since most people experience no pain but my pain was like a 9 out of 10. He said that since it went into scar tissue the pain would be more severe but that only lasted about 2 minutes.
Also was wondering if you used a pump so you could get the full effect of the treatments? I’ve had one for a while but I don’t know if I have a good method. what I usually do is pump about 4 times, rest 15 seconds, pump again and repeat that process until I’m fully erect and then let that sit for about a minute. I’ll release the air and start over and repeat two more times. should I let the pump hold the full erection for longer?

 

Sorry For bothering
i have same problem
what you mean by reboot??

 

Your brain/dick are rebooting from porn. The reboot starts when you stop PMO. During the reboot the mind and body are healing and depending on the person it could take anywhere as little as 3 months to 3 years. I believe a change to a healthy diet and exercise can speed up this process. Keep in mind that after some time you will probably go into a temporary flatline phase. Here you will not have any urge to PMO, interest in girls and your erection quality will go down

 

I must be in one hell of a flatline then! (I stopped PMO in August 2017 and I'm still experiencing the lack of interest in PMO, 'feeling' of attraction towards girs and my erection quality is certainly below average).

 

My dear lovely soul,
Please don't get depressed. You are moving forward like a snail.
I kindly request you not to give up.
Take some supplements and if possible consult a doctor or try reading articles related to this.
You will heal.
Body memory takes time to create new memories.

 

sometimes flatline won’t go away until you get yourself with a real girl. You don’t have to have have sex right away. Maybe just talking, kissing or some foreplay could work. You won’t know until you try. Whatever you do don’t test it out by PMO.

 

Hey, it's me, person from the past.

"I've heard a few people say it's due to mind conditioning but I believe the pelvic muscles play a role in this too. ONE guy did say he trained himself to climax standing up for a week and it solved his problem. It all comes from years of fapping seated."
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Pretty cool my post was able to help someone. I did an update post on reddit because I still remember how much this condition sucked for me in the past. I hope it helps more people in the future. I'm copy pasting my post here for your convenience since I can't link stuff. If you want to search for it, the title is 'For those with problems getting erections while standing up, but that gets an erection just fine while sitting down. If you are fustrated because you lose your erection as you stand up, or just can't maintain it, I hope it will help.'

Person from the future reading this, good luck. You can do it. It is possible.

Jump to the solution below if you wish.

A few years ago I had this problem where I could get an erection just fine while sitting down, but never while standing up. I posted this on Reddit but for the love of me, I can't find it again. At the time there was really almost nothing talking about it on the internet so it was really hard figuring it out.

Several other people since then manifested themselves with the same problem. An extensive discussion here in the NoFap forum, that even started by referring to my post. Not only that but also several questions since 2016 here, here, here, here, here, here, here, here, and in so many more. That was just a quick google with "Can't get an erection while standing up." A lot of those came close to the same conclusion I did, some did not. I felt like doing this post because it feels heavenly when someone posts a solved himself as an update to a tech problem.

Pre-requisites

If you fall into all the below categories, it will probably help you. If you don't... good luck. Those are common factors between all the posts.

• You can get an erection and mantain it just fine while sitting down.
  
  
• You can't get an erection or mantain it while standing up.
  
  
• You masturbated your whole life while sitting down.
  
  
• There are no health related, more serious problems, with your penis.
  

The reason might be clear now that it is pointed out. Years after masturbating while sitting down conditioned your body to arousal in that position. Sex is much different. It often involves condoms, lots of moving around, changing position, and varying stimulations thresholds. Your masturbation sessions were all sitting down, the only muscle used was your arms, and the stimulation was always at the same pace and controlled by you.

Solution

Start small. I won't ask you to stop watching porn or whatever. The important part is to start small. Get as confortable as possible in your usual masturbation routine and change things at small steps. It is possible to achieve the same results during a NoFap, but the steps below I found were the fastest to get results.

1. Start by masturbating as you usually do, and when you are close to cumming stand up. You will either explode due to the contraction of the muscles or the erection with soften. If the erection softens, sit again and repeat the process until you cum while standing.
   
   
2. Keep repeating step 1. It is important for your brain to learn that standing up is also enjoyable.
   
   
3. At each session try standing up a bit sooner. Gradually increase your standing up time. Sit back down whenever needed. The important part is always to reach orgasm while standing up.
   
   
4. Keep repeating the steps above until you can mantain your erection while standing during most of your session.
   
   
5. Try to start from the standing up position. It will be much harder than just maintaining, but I think it may vary from person to person.
   
   
6. Keep masturbating while standing up. At this point, you can mantain an erection while standing, but it is not nearly enjoyable as when you are sitting down. Keep practicing. Focus on what you involutarily do with your pelvic muscles from sitting down to standing up. It will probably contract. It is important to focus on being relaxed all the time.
   

The usual proccess is in the time frame of 2-4 months depending on the person.

For those trying to do this without cumming and without porn. It is totally possible, albeit much more slow. The steps you are trying to take are much bigger and you will probably trip a lot more during the proccess. Just keep in mind it will take two or three times as long. Stretching your legs, stop smoking, and getting fit also all help a lot.

It will take some time, but through those steps you will most likely be able to mantain your erection while standing up. That's where I reached in 2016. However, it has been a long way, and three more girls in my life since then. There is another huge step to be overcome that wasn't mentioned in my previous post since I didn't know.

Sex

As I said, sex is much different from masturbation. There is other people by your side. There are two sides to this coin, psychological and physical.

Psychological first. If you had a partner to have sex while you were practicing, great. If you succeeded in your goals this psychological part can be skipped. If you were training in hopes to perform better with a future partner keep reading. If the thought 'Will I be able to perform?' is in your mind, it is crual to voice it out. If you don't voice it out, you are risking worrying about it and screwing the whole thing psychologically, which wasn't even your problem to begin with. The problem will then compound into not having an erection because of worry and worrying because you don't have an erection. Voice it out. Relax and go at it. Chances are the sex will be much, much better. Even more, since you have this problem, there is a big probability that you last long in sex after overcoming the issue, and a lot of partners like it that way.

Physical now. There is no way around it. If you have a fixed partner, try to stop masturbating and only have sex. Slowly ease into changing positions, changing pace, and moving around. Your partner has to be aware so you can stop worrying and they do not get lost in your worries. Assure everything is clear and keep practicing with them, and no masturbation, from this point onwards. Your sex life will only get better, trust me. If you don't have a fixed partner, things will get a little weird. First of all, try to reduce the amount of time you masturbate to porn. Masturbate thinking about having sex, or previous sexual experiences. Then masturbate in usual positions you do while having sex. It will be comical, but it helps a lot. There are a lot of muscles and coordination involved that you are not used to. Staying hard while doing all that is even more difficult. Practice, practice, and practice. Use more lube. Buy a fleshlight. Do what you can to make it as similar to sex as possible. Obviously, you can always wait to practice until you have a partner, it is totally fine to keep doing only the solution part of this training. The improvement will be noticeable nonetheless.

Future steps

I came back to searching around this topic because I found out I could stay hard for like a minute with no stimulation (mental or physical) while sitting down. While standing up as long as the stimulation disappears my boner goes down pretty quickly. This situation is totally fine for a quick change in positions, but not ideal if we are stopping just to grab a glass of water, condom, or just taking a bit longer between positions. I also have to admit it's pretty hot to just stand there with your dick at attention and smile to my girl, that's my current objective.

Guess what, I found nothing on google once again. The same as in 2016 hahah

If I discover something usual I will update this post. This time around I will be sure to save it so that I don't lose it again. Spread the word my friends. Help those in need. If there is another sub you think this will fit in, tell me in the comments please. Thank you and good luck.

 

Do u recovered fully

 

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Could someone find a solution to this? I havent PMO in 65 days, then had a BJ and a HJ, waking up with MW but cannot mantain it after standing up. Why is this?. Need to know whats going on and if the following post is the solution...

 

See a doctor. This could be a sign of beginning ED

 

Yo just try it again and again. Try to switch positions fast. Stopping porn also helps. I literally in the past has to always have girl ride me to have any sex and couldn't get on top or stand for so long but u just gotta try and it ends up working out in the end. Thing that matters too is getting comfortable with a girl cuz like hook up culture does not help with bettering a lot of these things.