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Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by Henr2020, Jul 24, 2020.

  1. Henr2020

    Henr2020 Fapstronaut

    well i was on my way to compelete recovery. when all of a sudden i decied to join a dating app 4 days ago. for the 2nd time.

    well i am hocked on these apps. looking it up, every 5 minutes to see if some girl replied. even my erections have slowed down since then.

    i am leaving the app. fuck it.

    btw it is like porn dont go there
  2. Wow... So you knew it already and still went there.
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  3. pump20

    pump20 Fapstronaut

    Dating apps always provide false information, so yeah stay single and be proud.
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  4. Asdor22

    Asdor22 Fapstronaut

    sometimes urges take over you, happens...the key is to take it as a lesson
  5. n7elite30

    n7elite30 Fapstronaut

    If you're going to use them at all (which I am by NO means suggesting or recommending), you have to go into them with incredibly low expectations, realizing that they are absolutely not designed to help you find happiness. They are designed for the sole purpose of making money for the people that run them.

    The algorithms and underlying programming really are not in your favor, especially if you do not pay for the "premium" version. After a new user "grace period", most of them will bury your profile to where nobody you like will ever see you. That way, it always feels like you start out with likes and actually have a shot so it's easier for you to be driven to pay money.

    Even if they were actually fair, the vast majority of the women on them are not. Many of them use them out of boredom rather than any real desire to find a hookup, MUCH less an actual relationship, and that's after wading through all the clingy ones, catfish, and ones just looking for weed. Oftentimes, the most "interesting" ones are only there because they get satisfaction and validation out of getting "right swipes." They rarely even read your profile or ever have any intention of talking to anyone they match with.

    If it sounds like I'm speaking from personal experience, you'd be right. I've fallen for many of the traps I've mentioned many times during moments of weakness and loneliness before I finally learned my lesson. While I know there are isolated instances of people meeting their spouse on dating apps, those are EXTREMELY rare and most of those cases occurred within the really expensive sites like Match or eHarmony.

    And this is all in addition to the obvious temptation of all the pictures. Women aren't stupid. They know how to get the attention they want with their looks and, for guys like us that already struggle with lust, that's an incredibly dangerous scenario.

    Basically, you have to make sure they won't make you stumble and that you don't have any serious expectations (again, this is if you feel like you absolutely HAVE to use them. Really don't recommend it.)

    But anyway, it sounds like you probably understand this pretty well at this point.
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  6. Authorized

    Authorized Fapstronaut

    I agree with all of the things said above, but how do you meet new People now during covid? I don't see any other way..
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  7. n7elite30

    n7elite30 Fapstronaut

    That is an excellent question and one that I am looking for an answer to myself. While I'm sure the number of users intending to be serious on dating apps has increased as a result of the pandemic, I still would not recommend dating apps. They just aren't designed for you to succeed. If you're dead set on it though, I'd say it depends on what you're looking for. If you just want a hookup, Tinder is probably your best bet because of its sheer popularity over other apps. However, that also means there will be a lot more bad stuff to sort through like fake profiles, bots, girls who ghost, etc.

    If you're actually looking for something serious, you'd do better with one of the nicer sites like Match or eHarmony. The fact that you HAVE to pay for it to interact with anyone means there's a MUCH better chance of meeting someone that's as real and serious about finding actual love as you. Plus, if you're THAT serious about looking for a committed relationship or soulmate, why not invest a little in it to improve your chances?

    The route I'm taking personally is just live your life. Don't try so hard to find somebody. All that's ever done for me is get myself hurt or stuck with someone too clingy for my own good. Yeah a bunch of places are closed but there's more to do out there during the pandemic than you might think. I'd wager the same rules of flirting and meeting people still mostly apply, just with wearing masks and physically distancing. Go out and do things you love and make a routine of it. Hopefully, other people will be doing the same and boom! New friends or even romantic interests!
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  8. Henr2020

    Henr2020 Fapstronaut

    so i deleted the apps and my random errections have started to come back quite quickly like in less then 1 day.

    but failing at the dating app at least gave me one good information.never leave a good women for anything and never let your dick make the decision for you.
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  9. n7elite30

    n7elite30 Fapstronaut

    Sounds like you’re on the right track, man!
  10. Henr2020

    Henr2020 Fapstronaut

    anyway thanks for the information about dating apps. before your information i thought it was all my fault but now i know better.

    i kept thinking i must be a ogre that no woman wants me not even the prostitues( there were a few) but thanks to your info i feel so much better,thanks. i know i am okay and my pmo will be cleared.

    btw does the penis once erect stay erect by itself or does one need to apply stimulent to keep it erect.
  11. Henr2020

    Henr2020 Fapstronaut

    so guys influrted with my girlfriend and my erection came back(woh) but only lasted a few secends any suggestions how to fix that.

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