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Posting here also, new to this, gay man, 26 years old. I appreciate the other guys here. I am not having any struggles at the moment including masturbating anally lol
 
23 years old gay man here myself, new guy here. Just learned about this "movement" the other day. I never thought how bad I was until I started reading everything about porn and how bad it really is for the brain. Also fapping every night took so much time and then at the end I would always feel so guilty. Today is Day 3 for me and I am going strong. I keep busy, even though I am currently not working at the moment, I go running everyday and try to workout as well. I spend a lot of time with my family as well. You just gotta keep busy to take your mind off of PMO, from what I have experienced. I have gone about a month before without PMO, and when it came to an end I felt terrible! I do not want to go thru that feeling again, so going to see how long I can make it with the help of this website. Cheers! Good luck to all!
 
Hi @jkeis862, welcome!

Congrats on deciding to take the first step.
I am also kind of new in the page, and in a pretty similar situation regarding job and home life.
The only thing I can tell you is: take it as a 1 day at a time process and it may be a little easier for you.

Best of luck!
 
jkeis862 said:
23 years old gay man here myself, new guy here. Just learned about this "movement" the other day. I never thought how bad I was until I started reading everything about porn and how bad it really is for the brain. Also fapping every night took so much time and then at the end I would always feel so guilty. Today is Day 3 for me and I am going strong. I keep busy, even though I am currently not working at the moment, I go running everyday and try to workout as well. I spend a lot of time with my family as well. You just gotta keep busy to take your mind off of PMO, from what I have experienced. I have gone about a month before without PMO, and when it came to an end I felt terrible! I do not want to go thru that feeling again, so going to see how long I can make it with the help of this website. Cheers! Good luck to all!
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We are all in the same boat :) We can support one another! Keep up the good work :)
 
Hi guys Victor here. It took me awhile to find this thread and I was starting to feel like there weren't many gay/bisexual men going through this so I'm glad to find this! I've picked up how pmo has effected my life and I 've been wanting to change. I've stopped using porn but I still haven't gotten through more than a few weeks with nofap.. I met another member of NoFap on fb and we created a gay nofap group there if anyone is interested. It's very new but I felt I couldn't find the support I was looking for in the other NoFap groups so we created our own! Anyways I applaud everyone here for taking the steps to be better people. I hope to do the same
 
Hello guys, I wrote my story in newfaps. Till 28y I was virgin as a top. Whenever I tried to put a condom, I ve been losing my erection.After a lot of effort and some therapy, I did it.Now mostly I top. What I want to say is that I still fight with my ed. Sometimes I have perfect sex, sometimes just satisfying and some others bad. I'm wondering if porn and masturbation changed my way of stimulating. I mean I don't have random erections, I don 't easily take the risk to change position at sex, I have to stimulate my penis in order to get arousal, sometimes while on sex I m thinking porn in order to maintain my erection and most of the times I can't connect with my partners. Even if I have found my top role I still have the anxiety. Most of the times my partners are satisfied but I feel exchausted by trying to maintain my sexual desire and libido. I feel that porn has to do with that.Porn and masturbation are habits that I have for almost 20 years.
 
Hi, 41 yr old gay guy here and have been all my life. I started nofap 1-1-19 And am going for reboot. Although I am in a LTR, I am the bottom. So I think I can do this.

I have watched porn and had magazines since I can remember. Not an easy thing to get away from.

No real big changes as of now except I do get a stronger manhood.

I have also been restoring my foreskin for a year and it has been hard not getting an erection when putting on my device

Thank you all for the great info and supporting each other, I have had some good reads and learned a lot. Looking forward to reading and knowing more as I am constantly trying to be a better person every day.

Cheers!!
 
Hello every one. I think my case is unique. I am 29 and have been only been with a handful of men my entire life. Never women. I want to be with women but I am afraid. I only ever watch gay porn and haven’t had sex in over a year. I feel bad when I have sex with guys and watch porn and want sex with women. Being so old I don’t know where to start. I’d like to know what I’m missing out on to be sure of things and really know who I am. I have gone months without watching porn but always come back to itbecause I haven't replaced it with anything. Some advice would be nice.
 
Blue said:
I just created a group for gay men to discuss issues from a shared point of view and things unique to gay men. If you're interested, check it out under Community --> Groups.
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Hello - gay guy here just joined NoFap but confused as to how to join the Gay Forum - any help appreciated please
 
Hey!
28 year old gay man here from the UK.
I'm currently on day 3 of my nofap challenge.
Have watched porn since early teen years and it's finally caught up with me to the point now where I'm no longer hard anymore :(

Would love to chat with other guys going through or have been through similar experiences

X
 
SoundsGoodToMe said:
Hey!
28 year old gay man here from the UK.
I'm currently on day 3 of my nofap challenge.
Have watched porn since early teen years and it's finally caught up with me to the point now where I'm no longer hard anymore :(

Would love to chat with other guys going through or have been through similar experiences

X
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Hey,buddy, what’s up? First of all, I’m Brazilian so please forgive any English mistakes.
I’m 36 and I’ve been consuming porn since I was 21. Besides, I like to chat on gay apps like Grindr. I normally masturbate even when I don’t feel horny. I started my sexual life by 16 and I remember how hard my erections were. Now I’m suffering the same problem. I cannot top my boyfriend in a satisfactory way. And when I manage to do it, I normally feels nothing. I have to trick myself picturing pornography in my mind in order to keep my penis hard, but I’ll end up failing. I’ve just started my NoFap journey. If you want to, we could me accountability partners. You ain’t alone, man ;) Be brave! We’ll get over it :)
 
I Relapsed after 12 of nofap {HARD MODE} And I
I don't feel ashamed of myself so far , cause i masturbated without watching porn.
I just read some gay erotica (I'm straight tho. i just love gay erotica and don't mind having a relation with a guy. ) and i felt so much tension so i released.
I didn't relapse hard, just one time.
I'm restarting and im trying to beat my record (32 days).
 
M1L1kk said:
I Relapsed after 12 of nofap {HARD MODE} And I
I don't feel ashamed of myself so far , cause i masturbated without watching porn.
I just read some gay erotica (I'm straight tho. i just love gay erotica and don't mind having a relation with a guy. ) and i felt so much tension so i released.
I didn't relapse hard, just one time.
I'm restarting and im trying to beat my record (32 days).
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Hello Newman here.
I am glad you are getting back on the wagon to fight this battle I stand here with you. I am a bisexual guy here who has been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost 6 years. I am doing no PMO hard mode for my goal of 140 days. I am currently on day 34 and it’s so crazy like don’t even know how to explain it. I’m currently in a flatline For the most part. I feel nothing down there at all unless I get around my bf I do get erections when I flirt, cuddle or get close to my bf but it doesn’t last super long but it’s cool to feel this desire from such small things and my brain isn’t concentrating on thinking of P or some stimulating sexual thought. My bf did give me pleasure me from fellatio on day 23 and I did O but didn’t count it as a relapse because it was with him and not myself. I O’ed very quickly within almost 1.5 mins super Crazy. It was difficult because afterwards for like 3 or 4 days I experienced the chaser effect really heavy and my brain almost convinced me to M without P but it has been said over and over that M without P and just your imagination will get old and you will resort back to P fantasy or go back to P itself. I say all this to say that even though you didn’t technically watch P, reading erotica can strengthen the neural pathways in your brain that result from watching P so it’s doing the same thing to your brain as P. I remember attempting to start the nofap journey three years ago and I wasn’t watching P but for some reason I was reading gay erotica and stories when I reflect on it it was giving my Brain that dopamine kick that it was used to. Honestly every guy has all the things he like watch and see when P isn’t an option (erotica, images , social media images). So it’s just important to get rid of all stimulation that comes from a screen. I hope I don’t sound like I’m preaching at you I’m fighting along side you man it’s crazy that this has done this to us. I’m slowly starting to learn what my body feels like when it’s genuinely craving sexual desire and not my brain telling my body it’s wants it. Keep on the journey and you will see it so much clearer. I have covenant eyes on my phone and computer so I can’t even watch P if I wanted to or else it would get sent to my 3 close friends that is enough motivation to stop me from watching it.
Keep up the fight! Fellow fapstronaught!
 
Marcus86 said:
Hi

I feel u totally. PMO to straight dudes is just like u said. It is so hard to stop seeing man as object. As skype I have felt like I'm object to other and looking for attractive object for me to get my urges met. But really loneliness is same same after skype and before to mee.

Yesterday I thought that some day I will have a man who I love and have sex with true love. He will have smile on the face when we looking for each others. I am really sure that these kind of truly love is existing. And did I really found that on skype or cam4? I'm not sure.

This culture is way harder about relationship than heteroes. Maybe because peoples looking for fuck buddies on each sides. I think still we can make our life to different. PMO is freaking hard as u said. But I have got little bit more perspective to this thing and I'm started to dreaming something than before it was just dreaming on the porn world. Coz' basically I think it is question about love and be loved. People need people love and be close. How great is that when u found it. I think it is still possible and thats way my PMO is worth it.

Marc
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whats differnt hetro guys objectify woman like yo do a man and bi men objectify both for me big tits and bbc
 
gronkychris said:
Hey guys, just joined up and 4 days in. I can't believe the things I've read over the past few days. I'm definitely in the right place! All of the symptoms I've read, I experience.

I have a question though.. When bottoming, to get off usually involves mastubration. Is this different as it is sex or not?
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I wonder that too but if its how you get off I think its ok because of it being with another person and not pixles. But I wonder if you gave up and hard restart NO PMO 2-3 weeks, if you could cum from his dick alone from being the bottom. I know my prostate is very sensitive when my balls are backed up can cum without touching if I build up a few weeks. not as many cums but more quality no jerking hands free cum the abstain way. I'm new here last night and don't know what other with more experience would say.

Or if you rode a toy to get off is that ok too or hard reset no-no
 
M1L1kk said:
I Relapsed after 12 of nofap {HARD MODE} And I
I don't feel ashamed of myself so far , cause i masturbated without watching porn.
I just read some gay erotica (I'm straight tho. i just love gay erotica and don't mind having a relation with a guy. ) and i felt so much tension so i released.
I didn't relapse hard, just one time.
I'm restarting and im trying to beat my record (32 days).
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isnt written erotica considered the same as porn ?
 
abc12345678ia said:
isnt written erotica considered the same as porn ?
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I will consider it the same as porn if it stimulates you sexually then yes it is the same as porn. I think some make this process more complicated than it really is. We get caught on the fact that were not actually watching P which is awesome! But to prevent this for being a problem we need to weaken the neural pathways in our brains and participating in ANY activity that stimulates us from a screen we need to eliminate it. This includes, Erotica, pictures and social media.
 
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