Get A Grip on Life - Religion, Career, Social Life

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Shackled Breaker, Jun 16, 2018.

  1. Shackled Breaker

    Shackled Breaker New Fapstronaut

    I have been MO since I as long as I can remember. Now - in my mid 20s - I usually PMO a couple times a week followed by regret and frustration.

    I need to quit mainly for religious reasons, as someone trying to follow Islam. But also feel PMO has ruined my potential in terms of career, social life - being in a constant state of sin and regret leading me a lack of confidence and self-esteem .

    For Muslims the best month of the year in Ramadan, in which the best nights are the last 10 nights of Ramadan. But that didn't stop me from my addiction. Because of this I felt such despair, "If cannot stop in this blessed month, then I will never be able to stop." Although, not losing hope in God's mercy and in myself; I am signing up here to trying to break this cyclic-shameful-addiction. To become a better version of myself.
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  2. Hi. Welcome to forum!

    Make sure you create a personal journal thread in Reboot Logs section and blog there on a regular basis. As well as just generally be active participant in various forum discussions. I recommend this to everybody new here because it's the major thing that helped me when I was first starting. Just lurking on forums, reading and learning is great. But it usually is so much more powerful to engage. It helps to keep us motivated and accountable when we are active part of community. And keeps this in front of our minds so we don't forget about importance of it and slip away in our old habits. Sharing is also therapeutic. This is a major reason why AA meetings work so good. But that was developed before internet era. These days we can get most of the same benefits online through communities like this. So don't underestimate the power of active participation.

    I would also like to suggest you to look into mindfulness meditation. It has helped me personally tremendously to learn how to deal with urges and triggers. It takes a while to get good at it and notice results, so you need to be consistent with it, but once you do it's very powerful. It has been used by sages for thousands of years to deal with various issues of the mind. And in recent decades the science is also catching up to what ancient sages have know for centuries. Meditation these days are widely used as very effective tool by psychologists for treating addiction and by neurologists for supporting recovery of the brain after physical injury. Plus it is generally a great exercise for the brain the same way as jogging is great exercise for the body.

    Check out this Ted talk on mindfulness practice, it gives a good idea of what's it's about when it comes to philosophy. The mindfulness practice as described by psychologist in a the video can be used by itself but ideally should be used as supplementation to your daily sitting meditation. There is this awesome smartphone app called Headspace for guided meditations to get you started with formal sitting practice.

    Wish you lot's of strength and success in your reboot journey!
  3. Septimus

    Septimus Fapstronaut

    Welcome! I'm glad you're here. Keep coming back!
  4. Shackled Breaker

    Shackled Breaker New Fapstronaut

    Really do appreciate the support, almost slipped today but thankfully I didn't have much time in my schedule.

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