Edit 4-10-14. I began this thread in 2013 because I kept watching newbies visit and post the same questions over and over. I wanted to start a thread that answered most of those questions in one place, and I wanted to give an example of how many of us have become free, and have taken off the chains of porn. This thread is for porn addicts for whom porn has caused problems in their lives, who compulsively search porn, over and over, and on some level believe it is impossible to quit. I am here to tell you, it can be quit, you can quit it, you can take off those chains. Now, it took you years to get addicted, so, take time to get smart about the problem. If you are serious about quitting porn, read this post entirely. Reading this thread will not cure you of porn addiction, but it will allow you to begin your journey armed with important knowledge. Where we end up often is dictated by where we begin. Do not begin in ignorance. Get educated. Now, go make a pot of coffee, make a pot of tea, get a water, and block about 1 and 1/2 hours to read this post--and all the links--to the very end. That 1 and 1/2 hours could potentially take years off fixing the problem we share. If, at the end, you take anything positive away, please repay the favor by posting something positive and helpful. William. Peace. Hi guys, I usually post the Ted Talk with Gary Wilson, which is the video I watched to get educated, shortly after which I went PMO free and have been for five months. It should be required for everyone who is quitting. It is here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c_RIm9ZMN1I However, over on yourbrainonporn.com , the site Gary Wilson runs, I came across another great video which hits the same points as Gary's Ted Talk, but in a quicker, and a bit lighter way. It is here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Ya67aLaaCc&feature=youtu.be And don't forget to read a success story by a nofap hero, Gabe: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JRehA9C0ajQ&list=UUxUD8G1jO8T-Ef2tuADCZOA I actually originally posted a post directly by Gabe, whereas recently, on 3-30-14, Dogwood posted the story about Gabe here, and this story is so compelling for younger guys with ED issues. Watch it, learn. You CAN overcome this. And more: http://www.nofap.org/forum/showthread.php?3549-Action!-or-not!!!-Have-you-actually-Prepared-for-it The problem can be overcome! Above is the education. Getting educated about the addiction was the biggest step for me in quitting it. I thought I had a problem below the belt, when in fact it was always in my brain, above the belt. We talk about being PMO addicts or even porn addicts, but in reality we are dopamine addicts, it's the greatest drug in the universe, and we carry it around in our brains. There are other chemicals involved too, but its easier for me to just conceive of it as dopamine alone. I am just a guy who wanted to break the PMO cycle and to quit P, not a scientist, so give me a break if the science is not absolutely accurate. It, dopamine, is released in response to porn, and our brains come to love it. Your PMO cycle will never be broken so long as you've got porn on the brain, or literally running around inside it. A lot of guys slow down when starting to try to quit, but they will never be quit if they keep porn in their head. Tools: Porn blockers. Don't just quit, don't just passively stop and sit there, take affirmative action to change your online habits by making it difficult to access the problem. This will help you in various ways. Stopping your ability to access porn will help you stop accessing porn, and accessing porn is the underlying problem here. Maybe blockers won't stop you, but for me, they slowed me down and acted almost like a reminder that I was stopping. Like a tap on the shoulder. Also, taking these steps means you are taking steps to control your situation, which is a bit empowering. I also post here, it helps, and there are other tools out there from accountability partners to therapy to 12 step programs. Withdrawals suck. We don't talk enough about them here. They are why we fail. They are our brain's dopamine drenched chemical reward center begging us, threatening us, punishing us, pleading with us, rationalizing with us why we need to PMO. Withdrawals are painful, they are physical, mental, and emotional pain. They are the jitters, the shakes, the sweats, odd pains in odd places, the brain fog we feel when quitting, and our brain's way of telling us all that unpleasantness can go away with just a little harmless fix. When going through withdrawal I felt I had a sinus infection and my teeth actually hurt. I did not have a sinus infection and my teeth were fine, but my brain, at some level, had to make me feel bad to try and make me feel good through a porn induced dopamine release. The good thing is, if you are having withdrawals, it means your brain's dopamine levels are on their way back to normal. Once you get back to normal those things stop, but you can't get back to normal until your brain re-balances, and that takes, depending on who you speak to, between 11 and 90 days. I usually guestimate between 11 and 40. Newbies must be told this will not be easy, it will be hard, and they have to expect this pain, endure it, embrace it and even want it to accomplish our task, getting dopamine production back to normal. In my opinion, there are two type of guys here. Most of us don't know that, nor do we necessarily think we are in one category or the other. On the one hand are guys who are trying to control their porn use, don't want it out of their lives, but want to find methods where they control porn and porn does not control them. In my opinion they are addicts in denial. That is not meant as anything negative toward those guys, but for me three words were necessary: I am addicted. On the other hand, there are the guys who know they are addicted. I am in this group. We came to understand porn controlled us, that we cannot play with it or learn how to pick it up and put it down whenever we wanted, and that, consequently, to be free, we had to get porn completely out of the brain. We are addicts in recovery. Might help if you figure out which side of that you are on. I suppose, statistically speaking, there is a third group, being guys who watch porn all the time but can quit at will, or maybe a fourth, guys who have never seen porn in the first place, but I don't think guys in those last two categories are here. Lastly, we need to let the newbies know that porn is not just porn, it is any sexual imagery that sets off dopamine release. Porn is seeing it, watching it, perceiving it, hearing it, thinking of it, imagining it, remembering it. It is having an orgasm while thinking of it, whether with a partner or during MO. It is edging. It is PMOing. It is using porn substitutes like chat rooms or soft core imagery that triggers a dopamine release. Thanks for allowing me to post. Posting and responding to posts are part of my recovery, so thanks. I wish everyone luck on their journey. Peace.