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Getting back up when you fall flat on your face

Discussion in 'Self Improvement' started by GmanUK, Dec 3, 2015.

  1. GmanUK

    GmanUK Fapstronaut

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    Hey everyone,
    Its been 6 months since I last came here with any real interest. Id done over 60 days hard mode and was feeling incredibly good about myself. A sense of honour and worth that I hadnt known before. Then through a conscious decision I got back into the P habit.
    Looking back now I can see that what I really needed at the time was someone to talk to about my issues and get to the root of them rather than revert to porn as a way to numb the pain I was feeling. Yet at the time I was a student and broke. I had no money for proper food, let alone therapy and so I took the easy way out.

    Since then, over the past 6 months I have been working hard on overcoming many of these inner obstacles. I finished studying and got a job and can now afford the therapy to help me over the hurdles which I know are likely to come.

    So here's to getting back on the wagon and re-connecting with that deep sense of self respect and worth that only a porn free life can give me. Ive tried the bargaining and it doesnt work. Liberation is the only solution for me. So Id really appreciate your support over the coming months and I will do my best to offer mine when the opportunity arises.

    Grateful for the community and wishing you all strength and transformation.

    x
     
  2. With you all the way brother!
     
  3. I remember you sir Gareth, the last post of yours I read some months ago was great :)

    Onwards to glory bro. Rise and shine. Like a phoenix.
     
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  4. Good luck brother, you've already seen how the grass is greener.
     
  5. Amenquaruzz8

    Amenquaruzz8 Fapstronaut

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    I'm so happy for you bro, keep doing what youre doing, we will all thrive in the end :)
     
  6. No money for proper food, eh? Been there. I've been to the depths bro. This shit is no game. I am glad you are getting therapy and have a job now.

    I am gonna share a video, a song, and link to a book. Your post just compelled me to dig them up. Also I've been there so I know how it feels man. Send me a message anytime you are struggling. Your post some months back really resonated with me.





    From Poverty to Power

    An excerpt,

    "Unrest and pain and sorrow are the shadows of life. There is no heart in all the world that has not felt the sting of pain, no mind has not been tossed upon the dark waters of trouble, no eye that has not wept the hot blinding tears of unspeakable anguish.

    There is no household where the Great Destroyers, disease and death, have not entered, severing heart from heart, and casting over all the dark pall of sorrow. In the strong and apparently indestructible meshes of evil all are more or less fast caught, and pain, unhappiness, and misfortune wait upon mankind.

    With the object of escaping, or in some way mitigating this overshadowing gloom, men and women rush blindly into innumerable devices, pathways by which they fondly hope to enter into a happiness which will not pass away.

    Such are the drunkard and the harlot, who revel in sensual excitements; such is the exclusive aesthete, who shuts himself out from the sorrows of the world, and surrounds himself with enervating luxuries; such is he who thirsts for wealth or fame, and subordinates all things to the achievement of that object; and such are they who seek consolation in the performance of religious rites.

    And to all the happiness sought seems to come, and the soul, for a time, is lulled into a sweet security, and an intoxicating forgetfulness of the existence of evil; but the day of disease comes at last, or some great sorrow, temptation, or misfortune breaks suddenly in on the unfortified soul, and the fabric of its fancied happiness is torn to shreds.

    So over the head of every personal joy hangs the Damocletian sword of pain, ready, at any moment, to fall and crush the soul of him who is unprotected by knowledge.

    The child cries to be a man or woman; the man and woman sigh for the lost felicity of childhood. The poor man chafes under the chains of poverty by which he is bound, and the rich man often lives in fear of poverty, or scours the world in search of an elusive shadow he calls happiness.

    Sometimes the soul feels that it has found a secure peace and happiness in adopting a certain religion, in embracing an intellectual philosophy, or in building up an intellectual or artistic ideal; but some overpowering temptation proves the religion to be inadequate or insufficient; the theoretical philosophy is found to be a useless prop; or in a moment, the idealistic statue upon which the devotee has for years been laboring, is shattered into fragments at his feet.

    Is there, then, no way of escape from pain and sorrow? Are there no means by which bonds of evil may be broken? Is permanent happiness, secure prosperity, and abiding peace a foolish dream?

    No, there is a way, and I speak it with gladness, by which evil can be slain for ever; there is a process by which disease, poverty, or any adverse condition or circumstance can be put on one side never to return; there is a method by which a permanent prosperity can be secured, free from all fear of the return of adversity, and there is a practice by which unbroken and unending peace and bliss can be partaken of and realized.

    And the beginning of the way which leads to this glorious realization is the acquirement of a right understanding of the nature of evil.

    It is not sufficient to deny or ignore evil; it must be understood. It is not enough to pray to God to remove the evil; you must find out why it is there, and what lesson it has for you.

    It is of no avail to fret and fume and chafe at the chains which bind you; you must know why and how you are bound. Therefore, reader, you must get outside yourself, and must begin to examine and understand yourself."

    - See more at: http://www.jamesallenlibrary.com/au...-to-power/lesson-of-evil#sthash.xsVITOXy.dpuf


    Enduring suffering ends suffering man. Escaping it only complicates things as you surely know now.
     
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  7. GmanUK

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    thanks for all your support guys
     

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