Getting into Social anxiety :x :x :x

[geoff-89]

Hi, my anxiety didn't hit me so hard than today. A old friend come to visit me today while her sister is getting into dentist. I've come to greet him with my father and get into the kitchen for chit-chat. It's at that moment that i become weird. I have bad time to keeping eye contact with him, i've bad time when there's blank, i wanted to relaunch a topics but i can't. I've come into stressing movment, i didn't know where to put my hand. There's a lot of moment when it became unconfortable for me. On the other hand my friend who is year younger than me is brighter than me (that's irritate me a little).

That say, i know my socializing skills is near to 0. :x, there's no over day that it disgust me to be myself. I wanted some tips for overcome this handicap if anybody have (sorry for my bad english)

 

[Who I want to be]

Hey there Geoff!

I will copypaste what I wrote in a similar topic a few days ago. I think it might help you as well:

Hey, welcome to the forum!

I can somewhat relate to you. I have isolated myself over the course of 5-6 years and am now actually recovering so I think I can give you a few tips.

First: go out.
Simple yet difficult. Do you read? Do you enjoy music? Maybe you write or paint?
What ever it is, start doing it in a park. As often as you can. Nature has a soothing effect on us and we feel happier if we spend more time in the green. That's why green spaces in cities are so vital.

Second: do something for your body.
No idea what? Do the first thing that's available and affordable. I didn't know what to do and so I signed up for a Yoga class once a week. I hated Yoga and I'm still not a fan. What it did to me is: got me used to going out, got me used to move my body, got me used to a routine. Now, after a few months, I workout almost everyday outside of the Yoga classes but I needed those to get me started.

Third: either revive old or find new hobbies.
Your brain needs something that keeps you busy and makes you happy, to put it simple. Hobbies are great for multiple reasons. You are busy with something worthwhile. You develop skills. You learn. To name a few. Not only you develop as a person with hobbies, you also create new topics to talk about with people which is a great way to build friendships upon or just have a topic to talk about with others.

Good Luck! Remember, it's never too late to learn or start something new!

While I know you're not dealing with exactly the same thing I do believe these 3 steps should boost your confidence and self awareness thus extinguishing anxiety and nervousness in conversation.

 

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That say, i know my socializing skills is near to 0. :x, there's no over day that it disgust me to be myself. I wanted some tips for overcome this handicap if anybody have

I am going to be blunt and to the point on this answer not to be mean but because it helped me so much in getting over my social anxiety. You say that you your social skills are a 0 I SAY BULLSHIT ! ITS JUST AN EXCUSE YOU GIVE TO AVOID DOING. You say that your disgusted at yourself BULLSHIT ANOTHER EXCUSE NOT TO APPROACH, TALK, LEARN, GROW. When I was shy I could give all sorts of EXCUSES as to why I was shyi I wore glasses , I got made fun of in school a lot, I wasn't tall enough, I wasn't successful enough, I don't know what to say, I don't want to be turned down and on and on and on. EXCUSES are just fear keeping you from doing . DROPPING THE EXCUSES IS THE KEY TO TURNING IT ALL AROUND YOU CAN BLAME OR YOU CAN SAY BRING IT THE FUCK ON. That peace of advice helped me drop the shy act and begin to interact with people I hope it helps u .

 

[ramboeea]

it is social anxiety disorder and you can heal it with CBT easily.

 

[ghalib]

I am going to be blunt and to the point on this answer not to be mean but because it helped me so much in getting over my social anxiety. You say that you your social skills are a 0 I SAY BULLSHIT ! ITS JUST AN EXCUSE YOU GIVE TO AVOID DOING. You say that your disgusted at yourself BULLSHIT ANOTHER EXCUSE NOT TO APPROACH, TALK, LEARN, GROW. When I was shy I could give all sorts of EXCUSES as to why I was shyi I wore glasses , I got made fun of in school a lot, I wasn't tall enough, I wasn't successful enough, I don't know what to say, I don't want to be turned down and on and on and on. EXCUSES are just fear keeping you from doing . DROPPING THE EXCUSES IS THE KEY TO TURNING IT ALL AROUND YOU CAN BLAME OR YOU CAN SAY BRING IT THE FUCK ON. That peace of advice helped me drop the shy act and begin to interact with people I hope it helps u .

But i am shy too after making my artistic beats i don,t know why