I want to get an opinion about this so honesty would be appreciated. I’ve been in a relationship for over 15 years and we have been married for a year now. Obviously when we started we were very attracted to each other and were constantly fooling around, touching, kissing....just being near him was exciting. But we have fallen into a pattern of sex on the weekends, I know that we are both exhausted because work has us stressed but how do I rekindle that level of attraction? I know my fapping habit definitely had something to do with it, but now that I’m 40 days in (and all other stimulation is out of the picture) I want to get us back to being intimate spontaneously. I need to feel like I am a part of a sexual relationship as well as being married to my best friend. I’ve thought of the idea of dating him again-if only in my own head. Returning to the constant need to be near him, to surprise him with small gifts or notes in the hope that this will spark mutual connection. This is not to say that my end goal is sex all the time....to be completely honest I would enjoy just cuddling or sharing intimacy. I can’t help but feel that things have gone off and I’m not sure exactly what (everything) it was. Suggestions? Thoughts? Guidance? Help!