Getting over letdowns by others

I have had the exact same issues ever since my pre-teen years (age 10-11 and forward) up until the last 7-8 months or so (when my NoFap journey really started to take off) and I can give you the following advice in order to get some control of this mind-process and move on with your life and further on the path to greatness. As your NoFap streaks get longer, you will be able to read and interpret people quicker and a lot easier than previously for sure:

-Sift through your group of friends/social circle and leave those who have a negative impact on you behind. By leaving people with a negative loser-mindset behind, you will do yourself a great favor in the long run. This means, you should even leave certain family members behind (or at least limit your time with them) if they are doing nothing but dragging you down into the dirt.
-If these people have a hard time with you leaving them behind, just tell them confidently (in a constructive manner) that you simply don't share the same life-philosophy anymore and that the best solution is to go separate ways.
-Try to not give a s*** about what these untrustworthy and negative/mediocre people think about you. They just try to suck a lot of vital energy out of you in order to bring you down. By simply not caring about their actions and gossip, they will get irritated and just slip further down their road of mediocrity. A win-win situation in other words.

-Find out what your interests/hobbies are and try to find people who share these with you. This is a great way of making new friends and you will find out that most of them are genuine as well.
-Surround yourself with great people as that is what great men do. Great men are not needy so don't waste your time with people that never lift you up in or never bring anything to the table in return.
-Try to find yourself a good male mentor (if you can afford it) who can give you some advice regarding self-improvement and other life-style choices.

 

Why does all your current and future relationships have to suffer for what one person in your past did to you?

I understand that it's a traumatic past event, but you're letting it hold you back.

Every relationship is a risk. If you want to stay safe for the rest of your life, then be alone.

If you want to connect with others, you already know that you'll have to let them in and take a risk.

Others are also taking a risk on you... and currently it's not paying off because you're allowing this past event to hinder you.

 

That's why I have left all of my coworkers out of my social-circle and never spend any time with them outside of work. Mainly because most of them are just jealous, negative people who try to drag goal-oriented, focused and motivated people down to their level of mediocrity.
Although they might be intelligent and good at their jobs, they are simultaneously politically correct robots (with very little tolerance for different-minded people) who avoid many deep and relevant topics just because they seem to controversial to even talk about.
I am much happier being alone and going my own way (where I eventually come across some great people) rather than having poor social company that brings me down and waste my precious time.