Getting picked on for NoFap. Why? Fixes?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by derivative, Nov 24, 2018.

  1. Why can't you use the spoiler button then? Jez I've scared to read the rest of your post.
     
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  2. Marcelo48

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    If you don't masturbate or watch porn or do drugs you're going to be picked on. Why? Because you're the only one who doesn't do them. You're the "wierdo" of your family and friends, you're "different" than them. And people who are "different" are picked on, that's what humans do. You see, you need to understand that humans are social animals who tend to form tribes with their families and friends in order to improve the survival rates of everyone, therefore keeping the tribe together is a matter of most importance. A member of the tribe (you) who is not like the others puts the cohesion of the tribe itself at risk, and that's what the "picking on" is for: to shame the odd one into either conforming or leaving the tribe so it can be kept strong.

    I think it's a waste of time to discuss if the other people are being bad or good when, in this particular context, "we" are all a bunch of animals acting the way our DNA tells us to. So OP, you either conform or stop giving a fuck about what they think about yourself, I'm sorry. Just a tip, don't talk with people about NoFap, really, don't. Unless it's someone who's into it of course.

    And I did not know about the Rice Purity Test, it's so intriguing. I got 40 :p. It deserves it's own thread on this forum.
     
  3. Hros

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    I was really saddened to read your post, OP. It shows how cynical our world has become. Here you are, a person who's working hard to better himself, and he keeps getting put down by all who surround him, rather than getting well-deserved support.
    The only thing I can suggest is to do your best not to bring yourself into a situation that'll cause you to leave the room in the middle, in the first place. If you know your family is going to watch an inappropriate movie, find some excuse, or else convince them to do something else. Find other stuff to do with friends. Maybe find different friends? I don't know, it's really up to you.
     
  4. Brokenman123

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    He probably doesn't know about the spoiler button.
     
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  5. 19conquer

    19conquer Fapstronaut

    I like this. We shouldn't try to change people. We should only treat them fairly.
     
  6. I've just read it and it wasn't as bad as he made it out to be :emoji_grimacing:
     
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  7. derivative

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    My extreme avoidance of any stimulation whatsoever will end once I feel that I have mentally healed.
     
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  8. derivative

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    In your long list of things that start with "they should...", the only one that I am concerned with at this point in time is "Doing the right thing should be more popular." I don't think that I deserve anything or explicitly judge others as your list hypothetically suggests. I just am genuinely concerned about our society.

    I have had another perso. Tell me in the past that certain thoughts of mine, although intended to be filled with good intention and concern for others, often end up sounding judgmental which is frustrating because one ends up achieving the opposite of what one wanted: making somebody else feel bad when you were trying to help them feel better
     
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  9. derivative

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    Implicit judgment. The pieces of the puzzle are starting to come together now.
     
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  10. derivative

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    I would feel bad if my efforts too improve myself were making others feel bad about themselves. Hence why I tend to keep my NoFap participation pretty low-key unless a situation comes up like I described
     
  11. derivative

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    It's definitely a good thing to consider all possibilities here so good job
     
  12. derivative

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    It's really interesting to see the different opinons here
     
  13. derivative

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    @Rio
    Based on my past NoFap experience, i personally would have appreciated a warning before reading something with a graphic description.
     
  14. derivative

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    I LOVE your tribal explanation - how fascinating!
    Yeah I very rarely discuss NoFap with others unless they ask me first.
    Rice Purity Test would make an interesting forum
     
  15. derivative

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    What is the spoiler button @Brokenman123 @Rio
     
  16. Castielle

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    That's exactly what OP is asking for. He isnt trying to change anybody, hes only asking that others show him that same respect.
     
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  17. Little Bo Peep

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    That's bullshit, they are bloody bad people regardless if he spoke to them or not. Is making fun of and insulting a person to people just because they're different a way of life to folks? Even if it is to some (as miserable as they must be) he's merely asking why, he didn't even say he wishes he could change them...

    He's not acting like anything and nor is he judging, he's literally calling it how he sees it because he's going through that shite and they're bullying him, that's not judging. If they never said anything to him and he assumed things then that would be a different story, but they're literally picking on and absuing him, they're just straight up twats that deserve a bloody slap.

    Stop acting all self-riteous when he merely the asked the question why people are treating him like dog shite for doing something right different.
     
  18. elevate

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    Yup. Okay. He's the good guy and everyone else in his story is bad.

    So did the OP confront these people about it or did the OP just continue to build up silent resentment towards them?
     
  19. Castielle

    Castielle Fapstronaut

    He was embarrassed. Give him a freaking break. I wouldnt stand up and confront someone picking on me and making fun of me either, its humiliating. The point is, they shouldnt be picking on him in the first place.
     
  20. elevate

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    Yes and these people need to know that he thinks it's not okay for them to do that to him.

    What I'm getting at is not everyone that teases others do it purely out of ill intention. Older people like grand parents sometimes tease their grand kids not out of evil intent, but just as something they do because they think it's harmless.

    If the OP truly believes that his friends and family do this in order to hurt him out of hatred, then why continue to be around them?
     
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