Getting rid of sexting addiction

justajustajusta

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Hi,

I've had an addiction to sexting with women on reddit and snapchat for about two years now.

I've been trying to stop various times, and always found myself going back for the thrill and the affirmation. I think it is mostly driven by stress and feelings of low self esteem.

I am married to the best woman in my life and my life is overall amazing. This is the only thing that could ruin it all for me. Our sex is amazing but my performance and lust for it has been negatively affected by this shit.

So it stops today.

The snapchat account is already deleted since a week ago, it will be unrecoverable in 24 days.

I've deleted all reddit accounts safe for one, where I am waiting max 7 days to get a response from a person I had a genuine friendly connection with that I just want to give her a chance to send a response to my sudden goodbye message.

I am deleting the telegram account I had as well.

I've set a counter for 30 days without masturbation.

Checking in in 7 days. Please keep me accountable.
 
Hi,

I've had an addiction to sexting with women on reddit and snapchat for about two years now.

I've been trying to stop various times, and always found myself going back for the thrill and the affirmation. I think it is mostly driven by stress and feelings of low self esteem.

I am married to the best woman in my life and my life is overall amazing. This is the only thing that could ruin it all for me. Our sex is amazing but my performance and lust for it has been negatively affected by this shit.

So it stops today.

The snapchat account is already deleted since a week ago, it will be unrecoverable in 24 days.

I've deleted all reddit accounts safe for one, where I am waiting max 7 days to get a response from a person I had a genuine friendly connection with that I just want to give her a chance to send a response to my sudden goodbye message.

I am deleting the telegram account I had as well.

I've set a counter for 30 days without masturbation.

Checking in in 7 days. Please keep me accountable.

This is one of the best things you could do for your life brother and your life is already better of without it any questions or if you need any help feel free to message me or any other Nofappers as we can all help u together, good job king.
 
You have got a wife at home and you are married don’t give that up for a random person on telegram. Your wife loves you and she’s not worth giving up on for lust and sexting.
You're right.

I've set that telegram account to self destruct in 30 inactive days (didn't find another way) and logged out.

Two days (of min. 30) without PMO and the Snapchat account is unretrievably dead in 22 inactive days.

I'm going to do this.
 
You're right.

I've set that telegram account to self destruct in 30 inactive days (didn't find another way) and logged out.

Two days (of min. 30) without PMO and the Snapchat account is unretrievably dead in 22 inactive days.

I'm going to do this.

Well done man you've got this!
 
  • 5 days w/o PMO
  • Snapchat dead in 19 days
  • Telegram dead in 28 days

I'm already feeling an incredible rush of creativity flowing into both my work and creative passion side projects.

So much so that I am sometimes struggling to go to bed on time and then suffer sleep deprivation.

This is a common occurrence for me, and both being up late at night and being low-energy due to sleep deprivation have been triggers for me in the past, so need to be mindful of this.
 
So I had a success today.

While at earlier junctures, the tiredness from sleep deprivation would have been a massive trigger, today I managed to take that lingering horniness and turn it into steamy hot sex with my wife.

The spark that I'd been missing sometimes during the last two years.

This had already gotten better over the last two months as I'd already reduced my habits to like once a week instead of daily.

But today definitely felt like a step forward.

Though I still can't sleep and had some naughty thoughts to fight later in bed.
 
Sexting was a challenge for me too. It's insidious because I can tell myself "It's not explicit. She's just sending me pictures from the beach!"
Obviously, we all know what's going on...

Good on you for deleting those accounts.
 
Hmmm yeah no the kind of sexting I got myself into was A LOT more explicit than that.

A week in. Urges strong, sleeping alone tonight. Will retain that sexual energy for my wife though.
 
Ugh, had a bit of a reset yesterday.

Logged into that Telegram account and talked to the two people I have on there (T), which led to some M and some P, but I stopped myself before O.

On the bright side, today I found out how to immediately delete Telegram accounts, so I did that. It's gone now, without the stupid 30 day wait period.

So overall versus my many prior relapses (always ended in O and a lot of time spent making new contacts), this is an improvement.
  • 7 days w/o O from (T)PM, 0 without (T)PM
  • Snapchat dead in 17 days
  • Telegram dead

Thanks to the lack of O, the sexual energy is still there and I am planning to invest that in my marriage.
 
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I've struggled with this as well.. but enough is enough. I deleted all accounts and all pictures 3 days ago.. it took me months to finally get to a point where I was willing to let go. In my opinion its a lot more difficult than basic p because of the attachment to the women. I refuse to continue destroying myself in this way. Don't fool yourself into thinking you have something with those chicks.. they will easily find someone else. You're just another drop in the bucket no matter how much they fed your ego. Watch this video, you should be able to feel how it relates to what we must do.

 
Yes it took me over half a year of slowly reducing bit by bit to get to here.

It is so much more addictive that just porn because of the real women giving you validation. And with the smartest of them, there's real connection.

That is hard to let go.

But it is built around something fake, and also it's just cheating and a waste of time and sexual energy.
 
  • 13 days w/o O from (T)PM
  • 6 without T/P
  • Snapchat dead in 11 days
  • Telegram dead
Got a little triggered from some silly Twitter post and slightly aroused while alone at home today, BUT felt absolutely no urge to supplement that with any of the apps.

I will have to do something about my broader internet addiction next. Let's sort this one first though.
 
  • 13 days w/o O from (T)PM
  • 6 without T/P
  • Snapchat dead in 11 days
  • Telegram dead
Got a little triggered from some silly Twitter post and slightly aroused while alone at home today, BUT felt absolutely no urge to supplement that with any of the apps.

I will have to do something about my broader internet addiction next. Let's sort this one first though.
Good to see your update, I hope you’ve continued on the same path since March. I have had struggles with letting go of sexting and P since I started dating my girlfriend.

One thing that helped me a lot with social media side of things (instagram, facebook, twitter) is just simply making new accounts, everything from the algorithm is thrown out of the window and unless you search it there is a slim chance it will come back. It has also been a small goal to continue those social media’s being clean that makes me motivated to keep going and be proud of where I’m going with it all. Hope your doing well man :)
 
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