Since January (about 6 months after D-Day), things have been going really well. Our sex life has been in a place it’s never been in our entire 7 years of marriage, and I’ve been loving seeing the changes in him and in us. He stopped attending meetings and therapy because he said he “got all he could” out of it, and didn’t want this to be a part of his life or take up any of his time any longer, which I agreed with and was happy with. Well, now, I have been feeling uneasy because of some red flags that popped up, that seem all too familiar. Once again, his body is not physically responding to my initiation for sex, (and he hasn’t initiated in weeks now again). Even if I spend a considerable amount of time performing oral sex on him, he is still limp. At one point, he put me in a very “porny” position and got erect from that but went soft again once he was inside me... this is exactly what used to happen all the time because of his porn use. And that has been the case the last couple of weeks. He’s been acting a lot more depressed again, as well. Of course, he explains these things away with the usual “anxiety” excuse. Whatever it is, it makes me completely not want to initiate sex again because it is an extremely shitty feeling when a man can’t get hard with you, or when he goes limp inside of you. I feel so stupid and humiliated, and not attractive. I’m sorry but, I don’t think any man with anxiety could be limp to a very enthusiastic 5 minute long BJ. Especially after going a couple weeks with “zero” stimulation. I don’t know... I hope I’m wrong because I was so happy with the changes, finally.