Girl at the gym today

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  1. seagulls6878

    seagulls6878 Fapstronaut

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    Today the girl that sits in the front where you check I’m at the gym said she recognized me from somewhere but couldn’t place me. I became nervous and couldn’t think of anything clever to say. Is this a side effect of my addiction to PMO
     
  2. L'empereur

    L'empereur Fapstronaut

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    Play it cool. It is a side effect that you care.
     
  3. Are you 27 years old?
     
  4. seagulls6878

    seagulls6878 Fapstronaut

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    Yeah why
     
  5. It is a effect of you having your brains on your ass :D by that I mean, be who you are and just speak as you speak to your mommy. I know how you feel, but it only makes things worse to over analyse such things. Women are also humans, be authentic :)
     
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  6. seagulls6878

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    I over analyze eveything
     
  7. elevate

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    Why do you believe that you need to sound clever? To do something extraordinary beyond who you normally are?

    You perceive her as above you, place yourself below her, and you feel that you need something other than your honest self expression to close that gap.

    It's nothing more than fear of the outcome. You need a certain outcome too much. You draw from external feedback rather than being self assured within yourself. People are attracted to those that draw from within rather than being easily reactive to the external.

    Rather than saying what you want to say... you say things in the hopes of manipulating her to giving you a positive feedback. Rather than just simply letting her decide on her own on how to react towards you.

    You believe that you should never be rejected, but reality doesn't work that way. That resistance of how reality works is the anxiety that you feel.
     
  8. seagulls6878

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    All I did was kinda giggle and say oh I don’t know best thing I could come up with and she said it’s somewhere then I said idk again cause ... I got anxiety
     
  9. seagulls6878

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    How do I feel like you know me even though we never met lol
     
  10. Infrasapiens

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    I am thinking about a sarcastic response for her but I cannot come up with nothing.
    "Really? It is weird I cannot remember you considering how pretty you are"
    BAM! Straight to jail.
     
  11. Marik757

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    I wouldnt worry too much about it. Staff at the desk see people all the time. Just because she is friendly with you doesnt mean she interested in you romantically.
    Dont get burnt out/frustrated over it.

    Most likely she has already forgotten the conversation.

    For future reference though:
    Smile & say "I don't think we've met before." Then look for an name tag or ask for her name.

    Or

    "Yeah I come here often, you don't remember me?"
     
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  12. delhiboy

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    just talk to her and find out what she want. friend/boyfriend/brother. ladies dont generally take initiative to tell you that she has seen you somewhere. its guys thing. she might be interested in you, be optimistic and play cool. go ahead. all the best
     
  13. The Real Man

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    I was the same with girls. The worst thing you can do is overthink. Just be yourself. You don't have to be funny or clever, just make normal conversation like you would with any other person :)
     
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  14. seagulls6878

    seagulls6878 Fapstronaut

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    I over think eveything I prob need anxiety meds
     
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  15. delhiboy

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    its cool man, no need for meds, just dont overthink again :D
     
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  16. seagulls6878

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    Yes it’s just my first job I ever had was customer service at a credit union and I worked with all women. A lot of times the male customers would think my coworkers were flirting when really they were just being nice or bubbly since most women are bubbly. My coworkers weren’t trying to flirt and and when the guy asked them out they would turn them down. A lot of guys have this idea that just because a girl is talking to them they like em... but that isn’t always true. Like today I saw the girl at the desk again and she scanned me in and said “go ahead babe” , that’s just how women talk a lot of times. I mean I’m there every day working out.
     
  17. Ra's Al Ghul

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    I don't think you're correct. Maybe if it were a granny saying "babe" then yeah maybe that could be true. However if she's a younger gal and thought you look like Quasimodo, I doubt she'd be calling you "babe".
     
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  18. BravelyKegger

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    Yah i agree, when i care to much i start drawing blanks, but when i dont really care its a lot easier because i dont care if i sound stupid.
     
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  19. seagulls6878

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    Yeah I don’t look like quisamdo I’m actually fit .... but I have low self esteem stemming from I think being fat and bullied as a child and I guess the porn addiction . The inner fat kid never died in me
     
  20. seagulls6878

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    Yeah like I’m overanalyzing it again like when she said “go ahead babe” to me today at the gym today after scanning me in at the front. I was like dammit I should have said something but all that came out was a smile and I said ok thank you
     

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