Girlfriend that doesn’t give blowjobs. Dealbreaker?

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by mamusa123, Jul 22, 2018.

  1. Coolyorky

    Coolyorky Fapstronaut

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    Flavoured condoms bro
     
  2. mamusa123

    mamusa123 Fapstronaut

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    yeh we broke up - read the post before yours for the update of the predicament we were in.

    if only it were that simple
     
  3. abcdofindia

    abcdofindia Fapstronaut

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    lol.
    Yes, I'm sorry. I read it just after I clicked the "post reply" button... but by then it was too late :p
    My apologies.
    Glad that you decided what's best for u :)
     
  4. kropo82

    kropo82 Fapstronaut

    Thanks for updating us. It sounds like you did the right thing. I know you are feeling low now but I am sure you will climb out and find happiness again. Good luck getting back on the porn sobriety wagon too.
     
  5. I'd give up on anal because well it probably hurts like hell. Maybe have a conversation about why she doesn't like BJ's, it's probably a negative experience or bad hygiene that she's afraid to bring up. Make sure your really clean and offer to finish on something other than her mouth.
     
  6. hijodelaluna18

    hijodelaluna18 Fapstronaut

    I can relate in the way that..I dont like giving oral to women,I never have. But there been times Ive done it in order to make sure I recieved back cause I love receiving oral even more than sex. It turns me so on that I only watched porn of it and I ended having curiosity of being in the female position due to PMO I starte dliking penis and giving head to men. But also when Im in a relationship I used to do it if I love the girl,not to all of them though..and theres another thing,I love recieving oral but if Im in a relationsip with a girl meaning a real relationship and thinking of maybe a future together or be mother of my children I would prefer her not to do it to me. Theres been 2 girls I liked a lot,in that way thinking of a future together and see them giving me head like any other biatch was such a turn off for me that I could not look at them in the same way ever again...
    I know it sounds crazy as much as I love it,cause i love it more than sex I would not like my wife to do it to me.Id prefer a sidechick or aprostitute.
    as much as I tried to not judge the girls,think that it was natural,that they were not hoes for doin it...I dont know maybe its because my first sexual expereince ever was getting head from a prostitute..It may have something to do with it.
    I like it with girls I dont give a f about cause its empowering of my masculinty shes on her knees worshiping the fallus and all that is very empowering,but if I truly care about the girl and respect her as a person I think it degrades her and somehow that respect is lost when I see her.I just cant help it.If I ever meet a girl and she says shes never done it,I d totally respect it and LOVE it maybe even marry her if everythin else is alright.But of course I would get head elsewhere LMAO.. I know all this doesnt make sense at all ahahahhaha.
    1 of the girls I was excited about we grew together since school then found each other many years later,it ws like fairytale thing and I was realy thinkign maybe shes the woman of my life..the moment she did it I was about to say no dont do it..but I knew that would had been even worst and make her feel humiliated or think I was gay.So I just let her go on with it..she said u like it I had to say yes but...deep inside I had such a huge dissapoinment.And I felt bad mysef for feeling that way about her but I couldnt help it.I didnt meet with her again...The second one I cared about she did it...and even tough it wasnt as traumatic,we kept getting to know each other and having sex I still had feelings for her and enjoyed everything but I wasnt as atached..like not anymore like wife material so the moment the relationship strained for whatever reason I didnt try to fix things much.The problem this time was that...it was even more traumatic cause she wanted to do something very freaky for me..in her mind to make me feel special.So we were one saturday on our way to the club all dressed up(may be triggering stop reading if you want but I just need to tell this to somebody) and she went teasing like..do you think Im able to do it just now?? right here?...it wasnt a corner it was literally in the middle of the street..she went like so everytime you walk around here o your way to the bus you will remember me tha tkind of stuff...it was wednesday 2 am or something like that and there waas nobody around and I was like I know you can do it but please no dont do that..but obviously she took it like a teasing or something and went ahead...and after that..if I was able to kind of handle that she gave me head and still think of her as a future wife,but after that I could only see a street biatch.Some girls see giving BJ as empowering for them I guess she wanted to show me shes in control but guys such a turn off...
     
  7. +TenPercent

    +TenPercent Fapstronaut

    In answer to the title question - no, not a deal breaker for me.
    I dated a girl for a year and a half who would not give bj's, and only had sex with me twice in that time, even though I gave her oral all the time. Ok, maybe she had me whipped, and I got pretty upset about all that (hurt pride) but I eventually realised that I loved getting her off and receiving never did much for me anyway (i.e. desensitised from too much masturbation. I only wanted her to do it because I somehow felt that I deserved it for giving her oral and because she had done it with other guys.

    No anal is definitely not a deal breaker, either.
    Hmm . . . that's interesting. I've literally had women proposition me for anal. Oh, the joys of having "non-threatening genitalia", haha! :)

    So true. How can it possibly bring you pleasure knowing that she's doing something that she doesn't want to do? If it's really important to you, find someone that enjoys giving oral.
     
  8. hijodelaluna18

    hijodelaluna18 Fapstronaut

    I definately feel insulted when a grown ass woman says she doesnt give me BJ....No I dont respect it I would if she tells me shes never done it or she is under 20 but a 25 and up girl refusing...when I know shes suck over 30 penises of guys that are for sure less atraactive than I am..yes I have an ego..no way...
    Just to make me believe she is this decent educated woman that she clearly isnt or to have control and have me taking her out for dinner 1 month in order to get it done???? no fokin way...
    I wont do it to her and I wont even have sex with her..I show her the door in a second or say...cool! lets watch a movie :)
    Then 10 minutes later shes like..I think I gotta go cause of whatever and Im like cool hun :)
    And then I either think to myself...go make fun of some other dude biatch...or I say it to her when shes walking away from the door and shut the door loud before she can even reply LMAO
    True story!!!
     
  9. Dealbreaker, non compatible sexual desires, not oossible to have succesfull and fullfilling long term relationship. Love has nothing to do with that.
     

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