Girls attracted even if they're in a relationship

Discussion in 'Abstinence, Retention, and Sexual Transmutation' started by JLD, Jan 16, 2021.

  1. ShowProof

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    The way you describe this stuff is like an incel bro.

    If you see someone wearing sharp clothes, ironed, fresh, trimmed, everything on point. Then you too will unconsciously kind of start fix your clothes, posture and imitate that freshness.

    Otherwise maybe they just want to be friends with someone who is good looking and fit and thus probably extra healthy, smart and wise and lucky. Why not? Who the hell is attracted to making friends with a fat, scrubby, stinky person ?

    None of the ladies invited you out or outright cheated then eh? Your nofap doesn't make people go crazy or hypnotise them. I think you seriously need to sort the way you think dude. They are just humans like everyone else.

    ( Also if you talk to ladies who are very much a hoe and only spent time with their boyfriends for sex, than obviously they would give him his shoes back anytime for someone 'sexier' even if only perceived like that for a day. But I assume you are talking about mentally healthy ladies in this case...)
     
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  2. don0529

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    Of course... But my problem for years was that I would accumulate this energy and then the ego would use it for its own self-fulfilling purposes and milk the attention that I would get from girls. Then I would lose the energy because I would be burning it up via externalizing and focusing on egoic projections. So in summary it is best to preserve the semen while at the same time being free of egoic needs for attention from the opposite sex. Then you keep all the energy and don't lose anything. But good luck...:)
    And as far as Hollywood goes-- I don't think Robin Williams understood the concept...:) Actually I lived in Hollywood for 10 years trying out the acting thing and I can tell you these Hollywood people are some pretty big sex addicts (Im just generalizing though). Many of them are very stressed and so identified externally and don't know how to deal with all the attention they are constantly getting that they are using unhealthy forms of escape just to try and get a temporary pseudo sense of calmness (understandably).
     
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  3. don0529

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    And yes, the highest and most so called "pure" relationship is one where one of the beings have realized their true formless nature and the other being has the strong desire to realize their true nature and thus is drinking from the other beings realization.... But as it is most people are all using each other for lower purposes: economic security, sexual gratification, status quo, etc. But these true motives go unnoticed for the most part. That level of self-introspection hasn't yet been activated. Nor does it need to be. On this planet there are all levels of consciousness being expressed. If it was otherwise, it would be boring. We have to taste all the different levels of experience and then authentically transcend our desire for them. It happens automatically once we have sufficient experience. Every external thing gets boring at some point and fails to produce lasting satisfaction. It is designed to be like that.

    The level of conversations that are being had here are super good (and they just keep increasing)!!!!

    ** You can click on "click to expand" to see my replies to certain things you said
     
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  4. Thank you @primaljade for replying, I’m quiet busy these days. P.S. I’m not sure if I would have been say to frame it so nicely as you did.
     
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  5. primaljade

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    In my experience I'm really open about my sexuality and don't hide fapping, fetishes, or fantasies with the women I date. There've been times I did the PUA thing and was pretty "socially active" but would still end up fapping on the days with too much alone time. Porn is something I avoid but still cave to it, as you see I'm on this forum.

    Disagree, since naturally we'd be having sex to propagate our species.

    I made a post a couple weeks ago about this (I won't crosspost here) about a study of a remote African tribe, where the couples had sex 3-4 times PER NIGHT. I reread that to make sure I read it right. Their main purpose for sex (reportedly) was to have more children to support the future tribe. If most tribes had sex this frequently it'd be no wonder they didn't masturbate. I'll stop here, don't mean to hijack the thread but found your post interesting.
     
  6. CRSG

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    ive said this b4. we exchange energy, receive and build energy with one another. through eye contact and ect and through intercourse. there is nothing wrong with having actual sex with another. its a way to get energy.
     
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  7. don0529

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    Yes, there are only really 2 reasons for having sex-- to procreate or to exchange energy. But most will have sex to satisfy some insatiable lustful urge, while at the same time rationalizing and telling themselves that they are exchanging energy. To Thy own Self be true!
     
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  8. God_Mode_Activated!!

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    Thank you for your response mate.

    Let me clear something first:
    I have never said, "sex is bad". I have just outlined "masturbation only". However, meaningless sex for the only reason of pleasure is also "no good". And this I shouldn't tell you. If you ever had one, you will know it. What for are we retaining semen? It's not to die without ever having sex. It's for the time being when we meet the right person at the right time for the right reason. It's an act of sacrificing short-term pleasure for long-term satisfaction.

    And the thing is this: "Sex should not be emulated or fantasized. You are born to have sex - and a meaningful one for that matter. I don't know about you, but I know I am born for that [Just kidding]. But there should be restrictions when the time or reason is not right."

    P.S. One more thing: As you outlined if you are having sex for the purpose of procreation - why not? You are born for it. Even when ignorant guys like me try to impose on you that it's bad, you should not listen to us. It's your natural right. Have fun!
     
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  9. God_Mode_Activated!!

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    Glad to hear your reply!

    We seem to share some common beliefs.

    Have a great life ahead!
     
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  10. don0529

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    Share common "realizations" isnt it....
     
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  12. God_Mode_Activated!!

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    Sorry to interrupt but I wanted to add something!
    Well, I don't think a girl will risk asking a guy out just like that? Even guys fear doing that, imagine girls doing it, so it's definitely not coming from a girl.

    For a girl to ask a guy out, she needs to feel something towards him and that takes time.
    "Asking out" is a guy's job whereas subtly giving hints is a girl's [at least that is what's assumed]. In that case, a girl who is in a relationship will never directly communicate her attraction through words but if she is really attracted to you, she can't hide it as well. She will show some bodily hints.

    Even though the attraction is very instantaneous and may fly within few seconds, it's still an attraction. And if you act on that instant, who knows what other possibilities life has for you!
     
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  13. blacklabel92

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    for some reason i thought about how women like a challenge i feel like part of the reason they do this is to reassure themselves that they still got "it" theres a saying in the dating world that once the mystery fades or if a girl has u figured she looses all interest and no longer wants to pursue you. not all women but id say most.
     
  14. Micah_Orion

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    These women are not morally disciplined, are "thots"
     
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  15. Micah_Orion

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    Why the fuck are you even here if you don't understand the value of semen retention? What's your purpose? I don't get it... Is it because you're so weak that you can't accomplish it, you try to stop others? What evidence do you have that it's ineffective?
     

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