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Girls I want to date

Discussion in 'Self Improvement' started by mijereah, Feb 4, 2015.

  1. mijereah

    mijereah Fapstronaut

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    Guys I thought I would post this here. There are a lot of girls I want to date right now, problem is is that I don't think it would be that productive given the fact that I am on here trying to end this addiction. I truly wonder what most of you would do in my situation. I know we have heard it a lot before where some people tell us to go out and get more confidence. Don't get me wrong I know that's a good thing, but I'm stuck on the fence whether or not I want to date and go out with all these girls. I don't really want to be polyamorous or whatever, I guess my real issue is just not being able to focus in and decisively pick one of these girls who I think is the best fit for me. Do any of you have problems with this or is it just me? I wonder if this is a symptom of my porn habit, maybe viewing so many different women and not being satisfied with just one? Can anyone relate?
     
  2. Steel Fury

    Steel Fury Fapstronaut

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    I don't have time right now to type out a long reply, but I'll say this much. I believe that there is far too much focus on "getting the girl", and not nearly enough on "keeping the girl" or "learning the skill".

    I'm guessing from your post that you're fairly young, which suggests that you probably have a bit to learn in this area. I'm not dissing you for it, because we've all been there. What I'm going to suggest here is just talk to the girls, have fun with them. You don't need to sleep with them or commit to just one right now. Interact with real people and stay away from the P, and let it go wherever it goes.

    Dating a variety of people is actually a GOOD thing, because it's talking to people and spending time with people that helps you figure out the qualities you really like in a woman, qualities deeper than how she looks. You'll be learning as much about yourself here as you are about women. That way, when you do meet "the one" that you want to commit to, you'll know. Until then, just have fun with it, and work on becoming a more awesome version of yourself.
     
  3. mijereah

    mijereah Fapstronaut

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    thanks Steel,

    Actually I am fairly older..32 to be precise and I have been on a lot of dates in the past year and have had a lot of relationships. It's just that I think my brain is telling me that I can't be with one girl. I've seemed to have this problem a lot lately and I actually did another post on it a while back ( http://www.nofap.com/forum/showthread.php?18289-Can-I-really-be-in-a-relationship)

    The truth of the matter is-- I want to date lots of girls and I like your advice on just going out and having fun to see what qualities you like in a girl. It may be constructive for me to just write down the list of qualities I like in a girl and match to those girls that I come across more often and the one I want to date.
     

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