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Girls like my facade

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by Billy the GOAT, May 31, 2017.

  1. Billy the GOAT

    Billy the GOAT Fapstronaut

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    Basically, my life is fake & people think I'm cooler than I really am. Girls in my community think I'm a mysterious tough guy and I get girls, but thats a lie. Only my immediate family know the truth. A few girls like who (they think) I am and and they tell my sister to hook us up, or they just get all flirty around me. I play it cool and keep my distance. My sister calls me a wimp and tells me to man up and talk to them. Lol. I'm afraid if I start talking to them, they'll find out the truth, they'll be turned off and my rep will be ruined. Im not physically attractive, never been called cute or anything, so im sure it's the facade they like. Or maybe they really like me? I won't find out til I try, I guess. Mostly I've aimed for girls outside of our small, conservative community. its agonizing because I have had girls that ive been involved with in the past get to know me and become turned off/ put me in friend zone.
     
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  2. This sounds exactly like myself. I have this mysterious aura around me that people have told me explicitly. On the surface I have everything, but deep down I just have a PMO addiction that forces me to isolate myself.
     
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  3. Billy the GOAT

    Billy the GOAT Fapstronaut

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    It sucks man. I think it comes down to fear of rejection. But on the bright side, at least its proof of potential.
     
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  4. John84

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    I think I had a similar experience, I was reading pick up artist and game material, but it was fake. It just led to friendzone once they realised who I really was. Also if they women know each-other, they might talk to each other and blow the lid off the mystery.

    Like for example,
    If a woman see you talking to another woman they don't know. They will probably assume your fucking her. Women like men with options, so they will become interested in you. But if those 2 woman come into contact with each other and start talking to each other. The other woman that was talking to you might say like "Nah are you kidding lol. He's just a friend like a brother". Mystery is gone for the 2nd woman, she loses interest because that woman now devalued you by saying she's not fucking you.

    This is why women also are more attracted to men who already have a girlfriend or wife. Women are attracted to men who are already fucking someone else.
     
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  5. Baroque

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    Yep. Just like it's easier to get a job when you're employed than when you're unemployed.
     
  6. I wouldn't say I have a fear of rejection. It's more like I PMO so much that I never get outside and have no inclination to pursue relationships because I wasted on my energy on PMO. What remainder energy I have left is gone to studies and maintaining my facade. Honestly, I can no longer complain that I am single and girls don't want me because that it is simply not true and I'm just being a bitch.
     
  7. Billy the GOAT

    Billy the GOAT Fapstronaut

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    You know what, you're on to something. My friend that has a lot of girls always tells me "bitches like niggas that get bitches, so if you dont get bitches, you won't get bitches." Lol it sounds dumb but makes sense. I should capitalize off of this aura before it goes away.
     
  8. Billy the GOAT

    Billy the GOAT Fapstronaut

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    The truth is I'm inexperienced. The sex would just suck lol than she'll run and tell all the other girls. Than the guys will eventually find out. This facade is like a safe space, but it gets lonely.
     
  9. The Wrestler

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    You can use the facade to keep your mystique, and use that to buy time to deal with your self-perception, the porn habit, and take care of yourself.

    You will have to let someone through the facade eventually, however. And what you may find out is that some girls find inexperience endearing and it makes them feel special - and even more so if you treat them special. There's no rush for the sex, either. Taking it slow can give you time to get more experienced at things, find out more about what she likes, practice with her and talk with her. Then all she'll be running and telling is how amazing you are!
     
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