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Giving Up on PMO and PK

Discussion in 'Off-topic Discussion' started by Corcoran978, Jan 16, 2014.

  1. Jan 16, 2014 #1
    Corcoran978

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    I think that the hardest part about giving up PMO for me is that it has always been a coping mechanism for me; every time things get bumpy in life I've turned to PMO.

    I've recently broken up with a woman that I'd been in a relationship with. We work at the same place, we were both new when we both started our jobs at the beginning of August. As I look back at what PK shared with me as being her issues, I think she may have had a touch of sexual addiction as well. I had suspected and I keep ruminating on the possibility that I was not the only one she was having sex with; I imagine that she had several sexual partners and I was only one of possibly several.

    I know that I had become attached to her two weeks after our break up in October. I actually contacted her and initiated correspondence with her. We quickly became sexually active again and it further reinforced my attachment to her. We ended up breaking up three times and calling it officially over and done with.

    I've been going to counseling to help me cope with this break up; it seems to help a little. However, I don't know what it would be like with out the counseling.

    I figure that if I have the will power to resist contacting and rekindling things with PK, then I have the will power to resist PMO. I don't want to give in to the fact that PMO would make me feel even lower...she has rejected me; I would be reducing myself to someone who could not maintain a sexual relationship with a REAL woman only to yield to lack of will power.

    As of now, I am on my 8th day of NoFap. And I had not felt any sexual urges until this morning. I woke up with an erection that gave me hope and fear at the same time. Hope in that I will once again be aroused naturally and fear in that I will be aroused, needing to satiate an urge.

    I will persevere...
     
    Corcoran978, Jan 16, 2014
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  2. Jan 23, 2014 #2
    Panda

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    I feel you man. I recently broke up with my girlfriend, and it sucked because she was one of the big reasons I wanted to stop PMO in the first place. When we first broke up, I was clean for almost a month, but I went home that night and PMO'ed without even caring because I was so grief-stricken. A couple weeks after the break-up, I'm still struggling to rekindle enduring motivation against PMO.

    We'll be grieving and striving together. It's not too much to overcome. As you said it, we will persevere.
     
    Panda, Jan 23, 2014
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  3. Jan 25, 2014 #3
    MrNoMoreFap

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    What is PMO and Pk?
     
    MrNoMoreFap, Jan 25, 2014
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  4. Jan 25, 2014 #4
    Corcoran978

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    PMO is of course the obvious (Pornography, Masturbating to Orgasm). PK are the initials of my ex girlfriend. I am battling resisting her, it almost seems like porn and PK withdrawals are one in the same to me right now. She is REALLY bad for me and I've gone back to her (relapsed) twice after our initial break up. She is a narcissist and if you know anything about these type of people, you'll know they are not good for nice guys like me.
    http://www.halcyon.com/jmashmun/npd/traits.html
     
    Corcoran978, Jan 25, 2014
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  5. Jan 27, 2014 #5
    MrNoMoreFap

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    Well, Bro I saw narcissist word and I already knew what type of woman and as often they fall in category of "bitchy". They are perfectionist, manipulative, controlling and so on. I totally agree with you, its hard to have strong meaningful relationship with narcissistic woman. They are those people with emotional baggage. For me when I met a person with narcissistic attitude, its a red flag. I don't actually completely avoid them. I just don't put too much time to interact with them. I have experience from the past where a narcissistic person put too much stress and trouble in my life. Thanks for the definition of PMO and PK though.
     
    MrNoMoreFap, Jan 27, 2014
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  6. Mar 15, 2014 #6
    gettingreal

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    Nothing makes me feel lower than being rejected. I feel for you, Corcoran. However, I have decided for the sake of my love life that I have to embrace rejection and invite it, because I won't meet or keep anyone if I don't make myself vulnerable. The road to happiness appears to pass through a lot of sadness, so I gotta suck it up. :-/

    Congrats on that huge streak! Inspiring.
     
    gettingreal, Mar 15, 2014
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