Goal: Find girlfriend in 2 weeks.(March 2018)

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by Iron_Polack, Mar 2, 2018.

Can I do it?

  1. You will do it!

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    76.9%
  2. No, you can't.

    6 vote(s)
    23.1%
  1. Iron_Polack

    Iron_Polack Fapstronaut

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    Hi all!

    Sorry for my English mistakes, I am from Poland but living in the U.S.

    Introduction:

    I heard about NoFap in October. After several trials and fails, and had experienced one of the most terrible moment in my life, I decided to end PMO. Since January, it is no more PMO in my life.

    I am 20, and I never had a girlfriend! Well, I had a girlfriend when I was 9, but something went wrong since then. When I moved to a new city, I became shy guy, played video games 10 hours per day and did not socialize. In age of 16, I started to work on these issues, and now it is MUCH better than it was. But I still have no girlfriend!

    So, I am placing a goal: Find a girlfriend!

    In this two weeks, from March 3 to March 17, I am going to find a girlfriend. I post this treat and promise to all NoFap community that I will do it!

    What I am going to do:

    1. Approach girls. It is by far the hardest part, even though about it makes me anxious. I saw a lot of videos, where guys approached girls on street, in cafe, in library and in other places, but I never did it myself.

    2. Get numbers. Suppose I will get courage to approach women, next I need to ask her for number and make it clear that I like her. Again, it is thing that I never done.

    3. Ask her for a date. If I completed first 2 points, it is already a huge victory for me. But I need go until the end, so ask her for a date will be necessary to accomplish goal. I don't want to be stuck in the friend zone.

    4. Get a girlfriend! Final point. If I do it and write that I have a girlfriend, goal will be completed!

    "You know, sometimes all you need is twenty seconds of insane courage. Just literally twenty seconds of just embarrassing bravery. And I promise you, something great will come of it."

    It is what I will be doing. Even approach girl will require a lot of courage, so it will be a real challenge. I will report in this treat every day, describing what I did to accomplish goal. Am I tried to approach, am I get a phone number or was rejected? You will know it.

    If I am fail, I am going to donate $100 to NoFap, as well as all of you guys will know that I had failed.

    I want to find girlfriend very much, so I will put full efforts to accomplish it.

    I ask everyone who reading this article to share your experience, about how you approach girls and how you overcome fear.

    Wish me luck and vote in poll.

    -Polack
     
  2. Quality

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    I think this is a great idea and will be amazing for you but if you’re looking for a long time relationship, there’s no hurry. If you’re rushing to get a girlfriend as fast as you can you’ll miss out on true love (cheesy sorry). Hope you do well!
     
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  3. Anon117

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  4. vineyard

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    powodzenia Brachu ;) działaj!
     
  5. scote73

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    This all sounds great, Iron Pollack! Please come back periodically and tell us about your experience, I'm interested to hear about what you learn and the strategies you try to implement to accomplish this goal. Good luck!
     
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  6. Gotham Outlaw

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    It's great that you want to find a girlfriend. The one problem I see is you're putting 2 weeks on there as if something horrible would happen to you if you didn't get one in time. It could also put you under pressure that otherwise wouldn't be there.
     
  7. I don't really like the aim of this challenge. I like that you are trying to approach new people, but setting twoweeks to find a girlfriend doesn't seem like a good idea.
     
  8. Anon117

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    Why not?
     
  9. calmthestorm

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    How about just using this two weeks to practice talking to chics and then you can move on to asking them out when you feel confident enough. small steps would be a better way to go about this.
     
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  10. narf

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    I'd focus on being yourself, and let the girls come to you. Practise eye contact with everyone. Use people's names in conversation. I believe all these things will make you a better and more memorable person.
     
  11. Iron_Polack

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    I have deadline clear deadline, so I will put efforts to achieve it. Otherwise, I tend to procrastinate. I think 2 weeks will be more than enough.
     
  12. Iron_Polack

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    It is a great advice. But if I would not meet new people, I cannot be memorable. My goal is to meet new people, particularly girls.;) In this challenge I will be doing it.
     
  13. Iron_Polack

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    Dziękuję!
     
  14. Iron_Polack

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    Dziękuję, bracie!
     
  15. Iron_Polack

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    Ok guys, I am starting. :) I will write here every 2-3 days and report progress.

    First, I will ask girls in my English class. It is couple of beautiful girls there, and tomorrow, on Tuesday, I will ask one of them if she want to hang out. Also, I will try to approach girls in cafe. It will be more challenging, but I must do it.

    Also, I have an idea for March 8. I will write you about it later. ;)

    Peace!
     
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  16. Iron_Polack

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    One week over.

    So, on Tuesday I asked girl from my class to hang out. We went on movie, but she has a boyfriend.

    On March 8 for the first time in my life, I approached random girl on street. It was very scary at first, but after approach it became easy to talk to her. I got her number, but nothing more. I can't say that I succeeded yet, but approach random girl were my biggest fear. I overcomed it!

    I will continue on next week and see what happened.
     
  17. eugenekrabs

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    Maybe you should do some more approaches and meet some more girls.
    Otherwise you will get in a hurry with your 2 week goal.
    You should eventually try speed dating.
     
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  18. vineyard

    vineyard Fapstronaut

    Great job approaching girl on the street! Overcoming such a fear requires real spirit!
     
  19. Nugget9

    Nugget9 Fapstronaut

    Good luck on your girlfriend search. I have a great girlfriend and we have been together for over 15 years and she helps me deal with all of my struggles of being physically disabled. We met on an online dating site but it worked for me on the 3rd girl, she is wonderful to me.
     
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  20. Abird

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    Care to explain how you approached her? Was she bussy with her phone? What did you say to open the convo?
     

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