Goal Met- 100 days no masturbation, still some issues

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by Fractured Mindset, Aug 25, 2019.

  1. k123

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    Great job,I would like to know how you will handle your concentration problem because I'm also going through the same
     
  2. Wuzzaap

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    Hell yeah , make sure u don't take all the ladies to urself lol
     
  3. light&light

    light&light Fapstronaut

    Brother, congratulation on your success. But you haven't told us the process. Like, have you done meditation, self-talk or anything. What is your exercise and sleep schedule? Have you used any filter on your laptop or phone? How did you get your motivation (motivational videos or some great quote or some personal autosuggestion)?
     
  4. Fractured Mindset

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    That's a tough one. I'm still in the process of figuring out my process. but here's a breakdown of what happened.
    1- I develop an attraction to a new girl
    2- I convince myself she wants me back
    3- I decide to go for it
    in the process of this, I realize I can't look at porn anymore so I stop
    4- I get rejected two months later
    Relapse I- due to the pressure of being free, yet I'm bored with what I look at
    Relapse II- due to not enough sleep, working 5-1:30, eating way too much sugar, and crashing in the middle of the afternoon. Less bored but still bored
    5- I realize this is my chance to get out. I don't allow myself to look at porn but still masturbate
    6- I join nofap in may
    7- you guys tell me quitting masturbation is part of the process, so I do
    8- suddenly, my sleep patterns improve and I have more energy.

    So I guess my strategy has been learning to tell myself no. Also, joining nofap and recently telling my therapist about my problem has given me two confessors if I ever relapse, and I don't want to. I think I'm going to start exercising this coming monday (due to cholesterol concerns though). No filters though.
    that however, has not been happening.
     
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  5. Wuzzaap

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    that however, has not been happening.[/QUOTE]

    Its gonna happen , develop patience .

    Do u workout , do u groom . People say its all about the personality. Still all of them factors play a part in attraction . So make sure u do it all, considering u dont know a lot of women . People who know lots of women just get it based on their personality . But when they first got into the game, they had to groom good to catch up women eyes .
     
  6. Fractured Mindset

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    Its gonna happen , develop patience .

    Do u workout , do u groom . People say its all about the personality. Still all of them factors play a part in attraction . So make sure u do it all, considering u dont know a lot of women . People who know lots of women just get it based on their personality . But when they first got into the game, they had to groom good to catch up women eyes .[/QUOTE]
    Workout will start monday due to health concerns. I take at least two showers a day, and I've been waiting for at least eight years now.
     
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  7. need4realchg

    need4realchg Fapstronaut

    How did you get tested for it.
     
  8. need4realchg

    need4realchg Fapstronaut

    You just exemplified a boundary. It’s a mental exercise
     
  9. Fractured Mindset

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    Went to a mental health clinic. Mostly just mental exercises, a questionnaire, and the doctor did interview my mom about my youth behaviors.
    Can you clarify?
     
  10. need4realchg

    need4realchg Fapstronaut

    You learned how to say "no." By definition, addiction operates in limbic brain, no choice, just feelings.
    that was a great i mean profound change for you.
     

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