God and I defeated masterbation and porngraphy and sex.

This kind of thinking is extremely dangerous and, quite honestly, very foolish. This is an addiction, not a bad habit or a bad choice we occasionally make. In my experience and from everything I've seen, there is no defeating this thing. there is only the fight against it. We fight it, or we lose, plain and simple.

I see you reset your counter today.

 

AA does use a higher power to conquer addition and it does help some people. If you can get through your addiction without believing in God, good for you but don't put someone down who has been helped by him

 

I'm not putting him (or anyone) down for being helped by God, or whoever they have as their higher power. All 12 step groups that use the AA 12 steps as a guide customized to their own addiction is a VERY good thing in my opinion. My point is that for someone to say that the addiction has been defeated, as in the addict is no longer an addict and is no longer affected by the addiction, is not really the case for the VAST majority of us addicts. So if an addict gets some help and has a small period of time where the addiction is not a problem for them does not mean that the addiction has been soundly and completely defeated and will never be a problem again.

 

I'm sober 16 years in AA by the grace of my higher power and the 12 steps. I also agree with what you said but your first statement may have been misinterpreted. I agree, depsite living happily sober from alcohol and drugs and free from the obsession and compulsion to use thanks to my higher power, I know for sure my addiction hasn't been "defeated." In fact, it's sitting quietly in my brain waiting to pounce. It's waiting to tell me I'm no longer an alcoholic and addict and some casual drinking would be fine. This thing is cunning and baffling and contingent on my spiritual condition. Thanks for making a point to highlight the dangers of thinking the addiction is defeated. I completely understood what you were saying and did not think you were putting anyone down for using a higher power.

 

Thanks for your input and CONGRATULATIONS on 16 years of sobriety!!!!!

 

Thank you!! Greatly appreciate it!!

 

I drank recently after 5 months free of it. Definitely recognize that no good can come from it for me.

 

AA has worked wonders for me. My life did a 180 as a result of becoming active in the program. It's amazing. I would suggest giving it a try. Find some meetings in your area, get a sponsor, and work the steps. It's life changing.

 

If you don't think of this as an addiction, then why are you.here? I'm NOT saying you shouldn't be here by any means, I just don't get why you're communicating with addicts.

 

Okay, fair enough. I must say I really disagree with someone being "cured" of theis disease called addiction. So, in your opinion, was it ever an addiction for you? Because if it wasn't, I think that's something you should probably take an honest and hard look at, having PMO'd several times a day. If it was, what specifically makes you think it's not anymore?

 

You defeated pornography? That's probably the reason why pornography is non-existant nowadays, you defeated it.

Dude, in any case, you defeated your addiction, not all those things.

 

Wait, isn't this a place of recovery, yes?

How is recovery possible if we can never be cured?

 

Clearly the latter, lol. Thinking the former is even possible is just a bigger fantasy than P itself. I'm sure this is different for everyone, but I refuse to call myself a PMO addict if I have a year of sobriety and am living a different life.

 

@engelman

I think we're going to have to agree to disagree because I can see that I will never agree with you on this.

 

Yes, life would be somewhat boring if we all agreed on everything, but this isn't something I think people should disagree on. No offense at all here, but you seem to be taking this addiction very lightly, and that's never a good thing. If I didn't consider myself an addict, I would never be among other addicts trying to help them because I could never relate to them or share my experience within my own addiction.

 

I'm in the same boat...100%.

I love this community and find great support but I'm also blown away by some of the stuff I read on here...some of it downright dangerous for many of us struggling with addiction. Thankfully, I'm more than capable enough to sift through the BS and focus on the members who provide legitimate insight and valuable support, like yourself.

 

It's very difficult to even Fight with PMO and Sex..
Resetting counter everyday
May God help me

 

So what is your situation right now? Married? What is your living situation? Do you live alone? This is NOT impossible. Its just difficult, but it CAN absolutely be done, it just takes time and dedication. You'll need to go FAR outside of your comfort zone, but if its important enough to you to beat this thing, then you'll do what needs to be done. Have you thought about joining a 12 step SA group?

 

What is 12 step SA Group ?