Going hardmode?

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A.K.95

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So my streak is going well, but I still have sex once or twice a week with my gf which leads to ejaculation. I was thinking about going hardmode for 2 - 3 weeks to see if my productivity and energy would increase. Advice?
 
Are you able to go more than that or is your libido low?
 
I personally found that I was still able to make lots of progress while having continuing to have sex with my girl. I think it a lot of ways having her as my only sexual outlet actually really brought us closer together and helped my brain reconnect sex with intimacy/love rather than with the impersonal stimulus of P. That said everyone is different and I don't think there's any harm in trying out hardmode for a few weeks and seeing how you feel. Just make sure you discuss it with her because she is also a part of the relationship and deserves to have her needs met.
 
capablex100 said:
I personally found that I was still able to make lots of progress while having continuing to have sex with my girl. I think it a lot of ways having her as my only sexual outlet actually really brought us closer together and helped my brain reconnect sex with intimacy/love rather than with the impersonal stimulus of P. That said everyone is different and I don't think there's any harm in trying out hardmode for a few weeks and seeing how you feel. Just make sure you discuss it with her because she is also a part of the relationship and deserves to have her needs met.
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Already discussed it and I have approval for 3 weeks LOL
 
A.K.95 said:
So my streak is going well, but I still have sex once or twice a week with my gf which leads to ejaculation. I was thinking about going hardmode for 2 - 3 weeks to see if my productivity and energy would increase. Advice?
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Two or three weeks by itself, even hardmode, doesn't really solve anything. If you need the benefits of rewiring, eliminating PIED, or weakening PMO habit, we're talking 90 days minimum for hardmode reboot, but 120 days hardmode are even better. If you need the serious, extended benefits of semen retention, then definitely more than a 120 days hardmode is warranted. It's amazing when one's masculine energy makes a shift from neediness/enslavement to penis/testicles via addiction to a surging power and vibrancy that's no longer painful nor compels addictive release but commands such a masculine testosterone vibrancy that is life-giving and almost pleasurable by its very self, even if somewhat tumultuous in is ongoing potency. Best wishes!
 
Hardmode implies a subtle 'reset' in the brain. It also implies that you reach a new "equilibrium" has far as how you use dopamine (the mechanisms behind dopamine are far more complex than what is usually touted in the forums).

For hardmode to "work" you will have to incorporate some sort of meditation (let's not think about out-of-this-world type things here), simply sit still doing nothing for dozens of minutes at a time and focus on your breath while slowing it down. This helps with the aforementioned "reset". If you over indulge in entertainment and whatnot during hardmode it won't mean anything. The way your dopamine is "used" will not change, hence no change in you overall.

I presume you will realize that I am for "going hardmode", but only done in a more wholesome way, rather than simply letting your brain go all over the place to avoid jacking off. There is no difference between letting your brain and activities run wild and jacking off to P.
 
JoeinUSA said:
Two or three weeks by itself, even hardmode, doesn't really solve anything. If you need the benefits of rewiring, eliminating PIED, or weakening PMO habit, we're talking 90 days minimum for hardmode reboot, but 120 days hardmode are even better. If you need the serious, extended benefits of semen retention, then definitely more than a 120 days hardmode is warranted. It's amazing when one's masculine energy makes a shift from neediness/enslavement to penis/testicles via addiction to a surging power and vibrancy that's no longer painful nor compels addictive release but commands such a masculine testosterone vibrancy that is life-giving and almost pleasurable by its very self, even if somewhat tumultuous in is ongoing potency. Best wishes!
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Yeah but I have a girlfriend so sex is something that is part of my life.

Moreover, I also experience all the benefits you mention with 'normal' mode so with sex in my life.
 
eagle rising said:
Hardmode implies a subtle 'reset' in the brain. It also implies that you reach a new "equilibrium" has far as how you use dopamine (the mechanisms behind dopamine are far more complex than what is usually touted in the forums).

For hardmode to "work" you will have to incorporate some sort of meditation (let's not think about out-of-this-world type things here), simply sit still doing nothing for dozens of minutes at a time and focus on your breath while slowing it down. This helps with the aforementioned "reset". If you over indulge in entertainment and whatnot during hardmode it won't mean anything. The way your dopamine is "used" will not change, hence no change in you overall.

I presume you will realize that I am for "going hardmode", but only done in a more wholesome way, rather than simply letting your brain go all over the place to avoid jacking off. There is no difference between letting your brain and activities run wild and jacking off to P.
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True! But what is your opinion about having sex during the reboot?
 
A.K.95 said:
True! But what is your opinion about having sex during the reboot?
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I think this is the wrong question ask. This creates a rupture in your sex life, e.i. sex during reboot, and sex after reboot, which in turns causes conflict.

For me now, sex is small on the scale of life. It has a function, to continue the species. That is all. Everything else having to do with sex is superfluous, and leads to imbalance, hence P addiction and our complacency with how women are treated in the "P workplace", and how they are viewed in our sex-centered culture (okay, there was a lot in these this paragraph, but not irrelevant). Generally, I believe that "natural" libido is much, much lower than what it has become.

On the other hand, I am not advocating for celibacy either. See how far you and your mate can go without sex and still be connected, still be bonded. If it gets way too much where you (or your mate) can't handle it, have sex. The next time around try and make it longer while keeping a mindset that you both can still be connected on a "deeper" level. This is rather simple, but not concrete. When we try and make things concrete we go crazy. We are aren't concrete blocks we are dynamic, full-of-life creatures!

I hope that makes sense.
 
eagle rising said:
I think this is the wrong question ask. This creates a rupture in your sex life, e.i. sex during reboot, and sex after reboot, which in turns causes conflict.

For me now, sex is small on the scale of life. It has a function, to continue the species. That is all. Everything else having to do with sex is superfluous, and leads to imbalance, hence P addiction and our complacency with how women are treated in the "P workplace", and how they are viewed in our sex-centered culture (okay, there was a lot in these this paragraph, but not irrelevant). Generally, I believe that "natural" libido is much, much lower than what it has become.

On the other hand, I am not advocating for celibacy either. See how far you and your mate can go without sex and still be connected, still be bonded. If it gets way too much where you (or your mate) can't handle it, have sex. The next time around try and make it longer while keeping a mindset that you both can still be connected on a "deeper" level. This is rather simple, but not concrete. When we try and make things concrete we go crazy. We are aren't concrete blocks we are dynamic, full-of-life creatures!

I hope that makes sense.
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Wauw you are so right... my GF tells me often that a lot of the time she is having sex with me because of my 'high' libido and because I am the one who wants it..... I am the one who is very horney like 9 out of 10 times and not necessarily her so I think you have a good point
 
A.K.95 said:
Yeah but I have a girlfriend so sex is something that is part of my life.

Moreover, I also experience all the benefits you mention with 'normal' mode so with sex in my life.
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So, there's nothing more you need, then? Did I miss something?
 
A.K.95 said:
Well I was wondering whether some of you have done both modes so normal mode and hard mode and experienced any differences :)
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I never got any semen retention benefits with soft mode (and never believed there were any benefits)... only constant chasers, which is like the chasing addiction itself. When I finally progressed in the upper echelons of hardmode, 120+ days, it all stared to come together for me.
 
JoeinUSA said:
I never got any semen retention benefits with soft mode (and never believed there were any benefits)... only constant chasers, which is like the chasing addiction itself. When I finally progressed in the upper echelons of hardmode, 120+ days, it all stared to come together for me.
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Ah okey thanks
 
Having done 90 days pied reset, and also sex during reboot... I think it depends on what you're trying to do?

You mainly need the 90 day minimum hardmode to fix pied. If pied is not an issue then natural sex is okay. If you're more horny that your gf you just need to discuss it with her and find out what she's happy with etc.

Just make sure you're doing a clean nofap though. No peeking, touching, or sexual thoughts etc.
 
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