Going through heartbreak

We have to be careful with how we let others influence our lives. As a man, you need to start learning how to cope with rejection because there will be plenty of it as you grow.
I understand you are young and feelings like these are hard to control. But put your self, your well being and everything above anyone.

Yes go out and have fun, kiss other girls, be with other girls, that is how you will get her to come running to you

 

Welcome to life.

 

Unless youre a privileged Turbo Chad the chances of the person you want wanting and loving you back the same way is about the same as trading in the stock market.

 

Better to learn this now then after 20 years of marriage and 4 kids later.

 

I remember being in similar situations when being younger and as tough as it may sound: You just have to get used to rejection because there will be more of it than approval/accepting during your lifetime. My problem when being younger was the sense of neediness where I thought I needed a girlfriend in order to be fulfilled and happy.
I realized several years later that I first had to build a great life around myself (socially, spiritually, and physically) before I could approach women successfully as that would not make me feel needy and simultaneously free my mind from any outcome. Because, if you already have a great and abundant life, a girlfriend would just be the "icing of the cake" and not "the cake itself".
Hence, you couldn't care less if you get rejected because your life is already great as it is and you know there will always be an abundance of women out there who would love to a part of it (as you are the catch and not them).

 

funny because thats what I said to my gf 3 weeks ago when we broke up.
How to deal with breaking up ? Get drunk as fuck, destroy something, cry at home. Then wake up and move on.

 

When my ex-girlfriend left me I entered in a 5 months self-pity phase. In that period I realized a lot of things were wrong with me and then decided to change those things, and I would have never noticed those things if it wasn't for the heartbreak. If you feel you cannot go lower, then the only way to go is up, use this as an opportunity to improve yourself.