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Got a lapdance in the VIP room...

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by HooEmAi, Feb 4, 2018.

  1. HooEmAi

    HooEmAi Fapstronaut

    It was my birthday on Friday. It'd been about a month since no P or M. She tried her damnedest for three songs to get me erect, doing everything from stroking it through my pants, biting it through my pants, rubbing/grinding her body/forehead/breasts on it. But not only did I not get hard, it sort of shrank and recessed inward.

    Maybe it's the absurdity of the whole strip club thing. That you're paying hard-earned money to a gal who doesn't give a shit about you. But my brain was wired in for sex, though. The smell of her perfume and pheromones on me as she writhed and her hair rubbing my face/chest. It's weird to me, though, that whenever I come to the real thing, I don't get hard. This had happened years ago, too, when I had a long distance relationship and ended up having a "one nighter" with a girl from school. I couldn't get erect. Moral scruples at play here? Anxiety? No P and M are going great. Making love with my wife feels awesome, and I appreciate her beauty more/have a stronger sensation and better erections as a result. I have ZERO problems getting hard for my wife. I HAD no problems getting hard watching porn, but for other women, it just doesn't happen.
     
  2. HooEmAi

    HooEmAi Fapstronaut

    Bump.

    Anyone had this issue to speak of? Where you just don't rise when it's not authentic or infidelitous?
     
  3. Gooding

    Gooding Fapstronaut

    What you describe sounds like a quality of your mind. Also I don't know your attitude towards the strippers. If your member is functional with your wife but not with other women that is a not a problem. No?

    I see a stripper once a week since three weeks. I like her and respect her. I do not feel guilty about seeing her. I also do not get any of P memories while I am with her. I also redirected her away from my crotch towards hugging and kissing. It is a positive experience. My counselor thinks it is positive too. BUT I do not get erection. So I know I have PIED.
     
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